This week’s Pegasus NLP Newsletter is about negative anchors and how, unless dealt with, they can result in our feeling as if our moods just happen to us – as if we’re on autopilot.
In NLP workshops we examine how negative anchors work e.g. you’re going through your day, feeling fine, and then something happens which for you is a negative anchor and that’s it – instant mood change! So you feel bad for a while and then get yourself back on track.
However the most serious aspect of having lots of unconscious negative anchors is their impact, over time, on our self-esteem. We know we ‘shouldn’t’ respond to these triggers. We know we ‘should’ be more positive. So we read lots of positive thinking books which make it all sound so easy. And we make endless ‘new starts’ where we’re going to be positive, going to be more in charge of our moods, going to not let things get to us and so on.
But the negative anchors still get to us.Our negative moods continue to happen automatically.
Why? Because traditional ‘positive thinking’ methods simply don’t work with these hot buttons. Negative anchors are pretty well immune to intellectual approaches. It’s as if they bypass the intellect and head straight for the emotions.
But not knowing this can result in our thinking we’re to blame – when it’s really just a matter of not using the right approach…