NLP for people who like to think for themselves

What to do when you’re put on the spot!

Those Rabbit in the Headlights moments - when you're put on the spot

Those ‘Rabbit in the headlights’ moments What to do when you’re ‘put on the spot’ The ‘Rabbit in the Headlights’ moments Most of us have been there from time to time.  Some of us find ourselves there all-too-frequently. You’re put on the spot – you’re suddenly challenged. Or accused. Or questioned. Or required to explain…

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How to free yourself from an old habit

Freedom from Bad Habits - action steps

How to free yourself from a ‘bad habit’ A bad habit is just a means to an end. It’s a way of having certain feelings. Or avoiding other feelings. Or both. It’s a way of managing your mood – and we looked at this in Part 1 of this article. The dilemma Let’s say you…

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Bad Habits Do a Good Job

Bad habits go a good job!

Bad habits usually do a good job! Many of us spend a lot of time trying to get rid of bad habits. It works like this. You decide a long-held habit is ‘bad’ and no longer acceptable – a habit such as smoking, putting things off, eating/snacking, retail therapy, or talking too much. Then the…

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No Rapport? No Relationship!

No Rapport? No Relationship!

Thanks for that introduction! I can’t remember, right now, who introduced me to the NLP expert, but one day we’ll meet again… 🙂 The expert was very into the ‘personal power school of NLP’. My knuckles ached for a little while once I managed to extricate my hand from the handshake. I noticed, while doing…

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6 ways to practice (or practise) your NLP skills

I practise - I become skilled

In developing your NLP skill the old saying ‘I hear and I forget. I see and I remember. I do and I understand’ applies. Actually, when it comes to skill, as opposed to mere knowledge about NLP, this piece of wisdom from Confucius is incomplete. We need to add “… I practice and I become skilled”. Because it’s not enough to just do it once and decide you understand – you have to keep doing it until it becomes an automatic (or unconscious) part of your behaviour.

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Worrying: Mental Rehearsal for Failure

Worry = Mental Rehearsal for failure

Worry: Mental Rehearsal for failure Worrying is normal. We all to do it, at times. We worry about how we’ll handle an important event, such as a job interview, presentation or appraisal. Or exam. Sports or arts performance. And the more important this event, the more worried we become… We imagine we’ll forget things, or…

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“I’ve lost the car!”

Poor memory - I've lost the car

‘I’ve lost the car!’ It can be a terrifying moment. You return to where you’ve parked your car. And it’s gone. ‘Where did I leave it? It was right here…! Now its gone…’ And you search and search. All over the car park. Faster and faster as panic builds. ‘It’s been stolen!’ Panic. So you…

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Professional Guild of NLP (2004-2017)

The Professional Guild of NLP was founded in 2004 by a number of NLP training organisations.  It was an independent membership-owned body which supported professional standards of training in NLP. Member organisations agreed to a code of ethics, a core syllabus, and to a minimum length of training. The Professional Guild of NLP was set…

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Give gifts to create feelings – or just create feelings?

Christmas: the time for gifts?

Giving presents is a ‘funny’ process. And a slightly complicated one, too, if you think about it… if you delve a little deeper – under the bonnet – which is what we do in NLP… On the surface we give a present because… We want to see the joy and surprise when they open it?…

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The 10 Steps to Highly Effective Hating!

You have to be careful if you want to be good at hating people. For example, you must take care not to get to know them. This could spoil everything. If you get to know someone you could easily be side-tracked into seeing them as humans like yourself and even as likeable.

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