NLP for people who like to think for themselves

“I’ve lost the car!”

Poor memory - I've lost the car

‘I’ve lost the car!’ It can be a terrifying moment. You return to where you’ve parked your car. And it’s gone. ‘Where did I leave it? It was right here…! Now its gone…’ And you search and search. All over the car park. Faster and faster as panic builds. ‘It’s been stolen!’ Panic. So you…

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Professional Guild of NLP (2004-2017)

The Professional Guild of NLP was founded in 2004 by a number of NLP training organisations.  It was an independent membership-owned body which supported professional standards of training in NLP. Member organisations agreed to a code of ethics, a core syllabus, and to a minimum length of training. The Professional Guild of NLP was set…

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Give gifts to create feelings – or just create feelings?

Christmas: the time for gifts?

Giving presents is a ‘funny’ process. And a slightly complicated one, too, if you think about it… if you delve a little deeper – under the bonnet – which is what we do in NLP… On the surface we give a present because… We want to see the joy and surprise when they open it?…

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The 10 Steps to Highly Effective Hating!

How to hate peole - 7 steps to highly effective hating

You have to be careful if you want to be good at hating people. For example, you must take care not to get to know them. This could spoil everything. If you get to know someone you could easily be side-tracked into seeing them as humans like yourself and even as likeable.

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Strong Leaders Create Weak Followers

Strong leaders create weak followers

The new team forms On the Low Ropes course you are part of a small group of 5-8 people who have to resolve a number of non-strenuous team challenges and problem-solving activities and, ideally, become a team in the process. You don’t know one another – you’ve met for the first time about 3 1/2…

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No surprises, please! Keep it the same…

The sameness (routine) or Difference variety) NLP Meta Programme

  The NLP Meta Programme of ‘Sameness’ Some of us prefer ‘sameness’ patterns – we like to do the same thing over and over again. For example, do you tend to Shop in the same supermarket? Use the same route to work – or to the gym? Dress much the same as you did 10…

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If you believe you can’t, you’re right

If you believe you can't.... you're right! If you believe you can - you'll have a go!

How do you respond to challenges? I can do this!   or   I can’t do this! Some people approach challenges or unfamiliar situations with Possibility Thinking – others with Impossibility Thinking. Each attitude directly affects your thinking and your actions… as well as the results you get. Henry Ford is supposed to have said something…

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Influence: getting your own way…?

Influence - dominance or cooperation

The cold call: how not to sell The cold call, or unsolicited sales call, was a fascinating example of how not to sell. Normally I politely refuse to continue with such calls but I wasn’t particularly busy when he phoned so I let him talk on, curious to discover how the carefully rehearsed sales pitch…

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Be careful with WHY? questions

Be careful with Why? questions

Treat ‘Why?’ as an attack question! We pay a lot of attention to words in NLP. We think about: What’s the thinking behind the words and comments How they impact people The intention behind them – why they are used. For example, take that little word WHY?  Harmless enough, isn’t it? After all, it’s a little word…

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