This month’s Pegasus NLP Newsletter is about how Grand New Starts, such as new year resolutions, begin with lots of enthusiasm and then quickly fizzle out.

Why does this happen? Frequently because big changes can are so disruptive of our own lives and the lives of those around us that the drive for normality soon undermines our new resolutions.

10% Stretch is enough – for now…

One solution is the softly, softly 10% New approach by which we introduce change so gradually that it smoothly and easily integrates into our routine.

Here at Pegasus NLP we’ve been using the 10% New approach since we started using outdoor activities, such as the High and Low Ropes challenge courses, into our NLP courses in the New Forest back in the late 90’s.

We use the concept initially as a way of introducing the idea of approaching challenging goals (such as some of the High Ropes challenge activities) by degrees rather than with an all-or-nothing and highly stressful approach.

Not just for the High Ropes course

We then look at how this almost simplistic concept can be use everywhere in our lives! We can use it when we wish to introduce change in our personal and professional developmentand, in selling, in managing, in leading teams and, of course, when suggesting or introducing change into our home lives.

Apart from being an un-stressful way of doing things the 10% New Approach has another great benefit – it avoids upsetting the ‘system’ in which we live or work – with the result that change is absorbed rather than resisted.

Click on this link to go to the full article from the January 2010 edition of the Pegasus NLP Newsletter

 

You might also want to check out our related articles:

http://pegasusnlpblog.com/new-year-resolutions/

https://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_what_you_want.htm

https://www.nlp-now.co.uk/goals_or_dreams_1.htm

http://pegasusnlpblog.com/nlp-why-grand-new-starts-fail/

https://www.nlp-now.co.uk/artl-wfo.htm

http://www.pe2000.com/self_help_techniques/kaizen/

https://nlp-now.co.uk/driving-your-own-bus2011/

https://nlp-now.co.uk/peeping-tom-behaviour-becomes-accepted/

https://nlp-now.co.uk/7-years-of-nlp-newsletters/#

And there is a newsletter article on NLP and the Comfort, Stretch, Panic Model here

8 Comments

  1. Anonymous on 9th January 2010 at 3:56 PM

    Great newsletter Reg, we’ve all heard of being in or out of the comfort zone but adding the stretch and panic zones is a new and very useful sub-division to me.



  2. Reg on 9th January 2010 at 8:28 PM

    The Comfort Stretch Panic model certainly has many applications and is a useful way of gauging the degree of ‘challange’ in any situation.

    (Following your comment I’ve added a second link to the end of the article. This is a link to a more comprehensive article on the CSP model.)



  3. Anonymous on 9th January 2010 at 9:30 PM

    Cheers Reg, I’ve just tweeted the link to the CSP model article.



  4. Irene on 10th January 2010 at 11:10 AM

    Hi Reg. This article states what we know intuitively, and gives a solution. Great stuff. I have shared it on facebook.



  5. Jonny on 10th January 2010 at 12:04 PM

    thanks for the reminder Reg – 10% stretch applies to so many elements of our life. I have noticed this has previously not been included in my ‘give myself a hard time pattern’ and quite deliberately by the way!

    Interesting that when I think of something I want to do / achieve, be it getting fitter, change career, replace an unwanted habit with a new one, and so on….. I tend to want to do it all ‘right now’, and if I don’t do it prefectly, or get immediate results and maybe even trip up every once in a while, well that makes me a failure, lazy, blah, blah, blah.

    It becomes almost so painfull to to not acheive everything immediately, the tendancy is to ‘give up’. Great strategy for ‘giving oneself a hardtime!

    On the other hand, if I take my ‘running’ it’s completely different. when running I tend to break down the distance into smaller chunks, this tends to make the distance far less overwhelming. I also make sure that I check in with my state throughout the run, for example, how is my body functioning? what state of mind am I in? Where am I focused?

    One of my key factor’s throughout the run, is to literally ‘enjoy the journey’ By doing this I usually achieve the objective of completing the full distance. It’s also great fun if, once I set out on a new run, I decided to just turn around and return home, or walk the rest, or do whatever I choose to do at that point of time to support myself. Interestingly when I changed my objective from running to beat a certain time, to actually relaxing and enjoying the run, I actually ended up improving on my original time, without trying too.

    Ok thats me, I’m off for a run, and if I don’t do it within one hour, it will ruin the rest of my day, and that will mean I am not a runner, and ……….. πŸ™‚



  6. Reg on 10th January 2010 at 7:10 PM

    Hi Jonny: loved your final comment – and I just hope you managed to do it within a hour πŸ™‚

    Do I detect a hint of Kris’s ‘Slow Burn’ approach on how you go anout running??



  7. Liam on 11th January 2010 at 3:08 PM

    Reg
    Very good article and how apt for this time of year…or even for every Monday morning when you wake up and think “Right, this week it’s going to be different. I’ll be more productive, decisive,communicative, focussed etc etc….”.
    Bringing a bit of maths to the party , if you could be just 10% different every month, within less that 10 months you have a whole new you!

    Happy New Year

    Liam



  8. Reg on 11th January 2010 at 3:29 PM

    And why leave it to 10% new every month…. Do it every day and you can be a new person just about every other week πŸ™‚