“I’m not saying you’ve got poor taste in clothes…” “Of course, darling, you know I love your taste in clothes… I’m just saying that some of my colleagues have remarked on how they feel woman in her forties should dress… err… to reflect her husband’s professional position…” Donna’s non-verbal response to Mark’s comment suggested we…

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Time to sell yourself Many people attend job interviews or on-job appraisals with a naive belief that if the look good, feel confident, and do a good job of answering questions they’ll succeed. This approach is naive because to is not taking into account the dynamics operating oin an interview and, especially, it is not…

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The cost of managers who don’t motivate No doubt Jack believes he is doing a good job in how he handled Mohan. In his view that’s the way to efficiently breeze through an appraisal: tick all the right boxes to keep HR happy and make sure your people know who’s in charge.  (By the way,…

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How not to do an appraisal Sitting in Caffe Nero a few days ago I had the uncomfortable experience of watching and hearing a loud and brash young manager (unintentionally, I think) humiliating a soft-spoken direct report. As appraisals go it was a pretty thorough example of how not to do it. Rapport – what…

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