Beware of what you get used to

Living on auto-pilot or living with clarity

Living on auto pilot On our NLP courses we also explore a number of ‘non-NLP’ concepts. And we then use NLP to ‘model’, or unpack and examine, these because They are valuable life tools Using NLP to figure out how they work demonstrates that there’s a lot more to NLP than a few techniques. 10% New…

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Petty People in the workplace

Petty People at work Petty People like to divide and conquer – to play the ‘enemies and allies’ game. In their eyes, you’re either with them or against them.  Side with them and life is fine. Disagree with them and they’ll aim to make life miserable for you.  With Petty People you’re either with them…

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Attitude, work and TGIF

Let's just get through the week!

We can choose our attitude… Fed up with your job? In a dead end with no immediate way out? We can’t all have Instagram Lives, all of the time! But we can always be in charge of how we deal with the life we have. We can always be in charge ofour attitude towards what’s…

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Bad Habits Do a Good Job

Bad habits go a good job!

Bad habits usually do a good job! Many of us spend a lot of time trying to get rid of bad habits. It works like this. You decide a long-held habit is ‘bad’ and no longer acceptable – a habit such as smoking, putting things off, eating/snacking, retail therapy, or talking too much. Then the…

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Strong Leaders Create Weak Followers

Strong leaders create weak followers

The new team forms On the Low Ropes course you are part of a small group of 5-8 people who have to resolve a number of non-strenuous team challenges and problem-solving activities and, ideally, become a team in the process. You don’t know one another – you’ve met for the first time about 3 1/2…

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Be careful with WHY? questions

Be careful with Why? questions

Treat ‘Why?’ as an attack question! We pay a lot of attention to words in NLP. We think about: What’s the thinking behind the words and comments How they impact people The intention behind them – why they are used. For example, take that little word WHY?  Harmless enough, isn’t it? After all, it’s a little word…

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4 NLP ways to jump-start rapport

NLP and rapport

Rapport: how to feel at ease with people We feel ‘in rapport’ with someone when we are in tune with each other i.e. when we’re on the same wavelength. Or share a mutual respect for one another. Or share strong common interests. We can be in rapport with one person – or with a group of people e.g. family,…

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NLP and ‘intimidating people’

Dealing with people who intimidate us There is a simple-yet-powerful little NLP technique for dealing with an unwanted reaction to somebody – such as when you find them intimidating you are in awe of them you mentally put them on a pedestal and look up to them you tend to defer or give way to…

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It’s not just what you eat…

The NLP TATE or TOTE model is a valuable method for recognising the steps which we go through in something as simple and automatic as eating. Recognising our personal ‘eating steps’ makes eating management and weight or size management more manageable.

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How to eat an airplane!

Or how to not be intimidated by your own thoughts! NLP is well-known for its great range of techniques for changing you you think, feel and communicate. But, deep down, NLP is really a ‘modelling’ process – a set of skills for identifying what makes us tick: how we have thoughts, how we create our emotions,…

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Public speaking, talks, presentations… Why do it?

An NLP way to decide where you’re going One great thing about NLP is how it enables us to be surgically precise in analysing a situation in order to improve it. For example, let’s say you’re planning to make a presentation. The first question to ask yourself is WHY? Why do it? Why give that talk? Why…

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Using the NLP Eye Movements

The gifted few It used to be that some people we regarded as gifted communicators and everyone else had to work hard at developing their skills. Then, about 45 years ago, along came NLP which began identifying the skills that the apparently ‘gifted’ communicators used. One of many obvious-once-it’s-pointed-out discoveries the NLP came up with was…

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All your eggs in one basket

The lights went out Just as darkness was approaching yesterday afternoon the electricity supply in the house disappeared. Suddenly there was no power, no lighting and no heating. And it is mid-winter here on the UK’s south coast. And it is dark here from about 4 pm until nearly 8 am. And it is quite…

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“I know just how they feel” – NLP and fuzzy thinking

Different languages! The rush-hour train from London was crowded but I got a seat at a table in the noisy, smoky buffet section.  (This was just before smoking in public places was outlawed in the UK). So I was sitting there, listening to relaxing music in the headphones to drown out the noisy boozy office…

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'The Eyes Don't Have It' – NLP scientifically disproved?

A not-very-scientific attempt to scientifically discredit NLP According to research published on 11 July 2012 by three teams of scientists (Universities of Hertfordshire, Edinburgh, and British Columbia) NLP ‘proponents’ are being irresponsible in teaching people about eye movements.* Their paper is called  ‘The Eyes Don’t Have It: Lie Detection and Neuro-Linguistic Programming’ and they have concluded:…

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Handle your job interview with skill

Time to sell yourself Many people attend job interviews or on-job appraisals with a naive belief that if the look good, feel confident, and do a good job of answering questions they’ll succeed. This approach is naive because to is not taking into account the dynamics operating oin an interview and, especially, it is not…

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The Low Self Esteem Habit

Self esteem is not a thing – it’s simply a way of thinking This week’s Pegasus NLP Newsletter is about self esteem. And how, whether it be high or low, self esteem is simply a habit – a habitual way of thinking about ourselves. As American psychologist and philosopher William James observed about 100 years ago ‘All…

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Life coaching – for amateurs!

Life coaching – 5 tips for amateurs! (1) You’re already a life coach You’re a life coach whenever you help a person with a difficulty: teacher, manager, parent, friend, professional coach’. The term life coach describes a person whose profession involves helping others overcome their difficulties and achieve their goals. But we all act as ‘amateur’…

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How to use the NLP 'Rep Systems'

NLP insights into how people think In NLP we act as if we have six main ways of thinking, or ‘representing’ or processing information i.e. our five senses + our ability to think through self talk and analysis. We call these representational systems, or rep systems. And, of these six, the most commonly used thinking…

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How not to bore your audience

The Minister speaks I was looking forward to seeing how the professional speaker would address the audience. He was a UK Government Minister and the keynote speaker at the conference. I was in the audience for the opening session because I would later be presenting a workshop at the conference. My heart sank when he…

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Your 'career brand'

Mention ‘brand’ and most people think about sales and marketing. But ‘brand’ can be a much wider topic if we think about it as being the emotions which people associate with people as well as with products. (Last week’s 5 Twitter Tips on @pegasusnlp were about branding and how this is relevant to your career or your personal…

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The Anger ‘Habit’…?

But is anger a habit? Looking at the visitor statistics for this blog, I noticed that this year’s most visited blog article so far is ‘How we do the Anger Habit.’ In the 8 months since it was published it has been viewed just under 1800 times. This is great and yet what I find…

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Sorry I'm late…

I don’t like wasting time People who are consistently late for appointments or meetings tends to share a particular trait. They don’t like waiting around – it’s a waste of time. In their eyes arriving 5 or 10 minutes early for an appointment wastes valuable time that could be spent on other things. So they…

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"Be yourself….." ??

The Self Consciousness ‘Habit’(*) Last week’s newsletter and blog article on Self Consciousness produced quite a few e-mails, including one from Bob (not his real name) who is in his mid-30’s, has had the self consciousness habit all of his life and finds that it’s getting in the way of his finding a life partner.…

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Brands – robust or damaged

Yesterday’s announcement that the News of the World was to close down got me thinking of branding – and how easily a brand can become damaged. Branding – just what is it? What actually is a ‘brand’? Well, there’s the literal and comprehensive version and the down-to-earth NLP version. The American Marketing Association defines a…

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NLP – that scary P-word…

NLP is great, wonderful, amazing etc etc It goes like this; you’ve been interested in and using NLP for a while and have found that it has made a difference in your life. You’ve used it to solve some problems and to make a few valuable breakthroughs in how you think, feel and communicate. And…

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Gotta, gotta, gotta… life's Rules

I should have remembered I was intently watching the car park meter slowly printing my ticket when a woman’s voice behind me said “Would you have a 5P piece?” I said “Yes, I think I have” and checked my change and, sure enough, there I had a 5P.  As she counted out the penny coins…

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NLP & Eating – what’s your strategy?

NLP and the T.A.T.E Model The T.A.T.E. Model is great for identifying what accounts for success or failure in how we do things. We use it in our NLP Practitioner courses and it’s simply an adaptation of the famous T.O.T.E. model which was published over fifty years ago by Miller, Gallanter and Pribram. Simply put,…

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