Think of three moments which were

This is a simple rapport-creating (and thought-provoking) – game or experiment which I came up with a few days ago.

It’s good for getting interesting conversations and interesting trains of thought going.

And you can play it with friends or family … or with yourself.

Select a few 3’s from the past 12 months

These could include

• 3 enjoyable moments – whether with yourself or in company.
• 3 embarrassing moments – that you can now look back on and, at least, smile…
• 3 things you’d do differently if you could go back in time – and how you’d do them differently.
• 3 things you thought were going to be daunting – but, as you look back on them now, turned out to be easy peasy.
• 3 successes – whether small or big
• 3 things that, after doing the above, you’re looking forward to in the next year!

No losers in the game. Everyone’s a winner because they get to feel good. And they get to refresh or reframe (that’s the NLP bit) some memories – and to use these to look ahead with a refreshed perspective.

Note: If you do this with yourself be sure to… do it. Rather than just quickly read it.

Like most NLP-based methods you do need to actively follow the steps.

Yes, on the surface, it’s an enjoyable little game but it is also designed to take your thinking and your feelings in a certain direction.

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