Looking at your partner through rose-tinted spectacles

You’re just perfect! We look at the “falling into and out of love” pattern on our NLP Core Skills course. It goes like this: We meet someone we like Get to know them better And, as a result, begin to fall in love with them This creates a filtering process in which we recognise more…

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Living on auto-pilot or living with clarity

Living on auto pilot On our NLP courses we also explore a number of ‘non-NLP’ concepts. And we then use NLP to ‘model’, or unpack and examine, these because They are valuable life tools Using NLP to figure out how they work demonstrates that there’s a lot more to NLP than a few techniques. 10% New…

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If you always do what you've always done

If you always do what you’ve always done you always get what you’ve always got This is a saying which we use a lot in NLP: “if you always do what you’ve always done you always get what you’ve always got.” By the way, the slogan is not exclusive to NLP. It’s one of the ways…

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NLP is not a technique

‘The NLP Technique’ I’m amazed at the number of individuals, websites and blogs which describe NLP or Neuro-Linguistic Programming as a set of techniques or, even worse and from a recent national newspaper headline in which NLP is described as ‘a technique’! Over 40 years ago, back in the early to mid 70’s, Richard Bandler,…

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Cop our or weasel words

Those cop-out or weasel words In NLP we aim to be very thorough in how we communicate with people – and, especially, in how we understand them. Because we want to get both their surface message and their underlying or real messages – it’s the difference, sometimes, between what a person says and what they…

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Introduce change - 10% New every day or two

Mind, mood and our ‘energy levels’ It’s amazing how powerfully our moods can impact our vitality. And how our gloomy or negative moods can quickly blend into one another to become our attitude. And how this attitude soon affects our physical feelings – and in particular our vitality or ‘energy levels’. It’s because mind and…

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“Sorry, I’ve forgotten your name!” That was me. Speaking to Jacqui yesterday! I’d just met her. At the time we were house-hunting and she, as an estate agent, had arrived to show us around the house-for-sale. She had introduced herself less than a minute earlier. She had even given me her business card – which…

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Soft Eyes: how to use your eyes to relax yourself - and others

Those really awkward conversations… Have you ever been in one of those awkward situations where – you feel tense, – the other person is tense and, as the stilted conversation continues, – things become more and more tense and uncomfortable for both of you? This ‘conversational tension’ was the bane of my life in my early days as…

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Petty People at work Petty People like to divide and conquer – to play the ‘enemies and allies’ game. In their eyes, you’re either with them or against them.  Side with them and life is fine. Disagree with them and they’ll aim to make life miserable for you.  With Petty People you’re either with them…

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