Those ‘good eye contact’ myths It would have been funny… .. if it weren’t so sad. He was trying really hard – the electrical goods salesman. He’d come through the one-size-fits-all […]
Those ‘good eye contact’ myths More
You can ‘try’ or you can ‘do’. If you’re going to do it you’ll say “Yes, I’ll do it!” If you don’t want to commit yourself, or you want to
The word ‘try’ – use it with caution More
Carelessness can destroy relationships. The ‘people side of things’. Up until my early twenties, I did have trouble with the ‘people side of things’. Yes, I liked being with people
Closeness and carelessness in relationships More
Sulking: getting the Silent Treatment! Oh, he’s just having one of his sulks – best to ignore him. If she doesn’t get what she wants, she goes into a sulk
Sulking: getting the silent treatment More
Think about a few recent conversations… A social one, not a business or work conversation. Okay, now replay the conversation in your mind – and consider: who, not what, did
A litmus test for friendship? More
I am prepared to admit that my favourite, and only, soap opera is The Archers on BBC Radio 4. (The programme has been on air since January 1951 though I’ve
“The Archers” – Jill’s wisdom! More
How those ‘not interested’ messages work. There are lots of subtle messages hidden in everyday conversations – even in seemingly light-hearted chit-chat! Some of these are verbal. Some, most even,
Are you getting the ‘not interested’ treatment! More
They need to look away to think. In conversation, lots of people need to look away to think. On the other hand, lots of other people get upset if their
That ‘look at me when I’m speaking to you’ rule More
Conversational power tactic #2 The “aggressive agree-ers” seem to be on your side. After all, they agree with you! But they do it a bit too enthusiastically; so much so
Conversational power tactic #1 People who use silence as a weapon in conversation want an audience. But they don’t like to be the audience. So, they’ll discourage you from making
Using silence to control you More
Falling out of love – and then back in again Reading time 6 mins The first flush of love is great. It’s that heady and almost insane time when we
Falling out of love – and in again More
Good intentions aren’t good enough… “It’s not what you do…” The Fats Waller song goes T’Ain’t What You Do (It’s The Way That Cha Do It)… And it’s good advice when
NLP and ‘good intentions’ More
Falling in – and then out of love I was standing outside a store at a shopping precinct near Bournemouth, idly looking at the people moving about among the rows
You’re not perfect anymore More
