Think about a few recent conversations…
Who, not what, did you talk about?
Or a fair mix of each.
More precisely, how much interest did they show in you and your life.
Were they genuinely interested in your thoughts, your interests, your feelings, your concerns, your aspirations?
A further test of this is how they respond when things are not going too well for you in your life. This is when some ‘friends’ turn out to be fair-weather friends. And then, happily, many show their true colours by setting aside their own agenda to make space for you.