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Posts Tagged ‘manager’

Petty People in the workplace

Petty People at work Petty People like to divide and conquer – to play the ‘enemies and allies’ game. In their eyes, you’re either with them or against them.  Side with them and life is fine. Disagree with them and they’ll aim to make life miserable for you.  With Petty People you’re either with them…

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Sneaky Judgements: The "Don't Shoot the Messenger" ploy

“I’m not saying you’ve got poor taste in clothes…” “Of course, darling, you know I love your taste in clothes… I’m just saying that some of my colleagues have remarked on how they feel woman in her forties should dress… err… to reflect her husband’s professional position…” Donna’s non-verbal response to Mark’s comment suggested we…

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“I know just how they feel” – NLP and fuzzy thinking

Different languages! The rush-hour train from London was crowded but I got a seat at a table in the noisy, smoky buffet section.  (This was just before smoking in public places was outlawed in the UK). So I was sitting there, listening to relaxing music in the headphones to drown out the noisy boozy office…

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The Feedback Sandwich

‘Flavour-of-the-month’ techniques at work One of the things that I’ve noticed in delivering management development trainings over the past couple of decades is the widespread cynicism about… management techniques. This isn’t surprising when you consider the number of too-short technique workshops, with methods which often contradict one another, that many managers have to attend. Their…

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Life coaching – for amateurs!

Life coaching – 5 tips for amateurs! (1) You’re already a life coach You’re a life coach whenever you help a person with a difficulty: teacher, manager, parent, friend, professional coach’. The term life coach describes a person whose profession involves helping others overcome their difficulties and achieve their goals. But we all act as ‘amateur’…

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A very public appraisal (Part 1)

How not to do an appraisal Sitting in Caffe Nero a few days ago I had the uncomfortable experience of watching and hearing a loud and brash young manager (unintentionally, I think) humiliating a soft-spoken direct report. As appraisals go it was a pretty thorough example of how not to do it. Rapport – what…

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NLP and solving other's problems

That urge to help them with their problems This is something that comes up in every one of our NLP Practitioner Programmes probably because the people who gravitate to NLP and to our programmes are motivated to help others. And helping people seems to be central to judging by how NLP programmes and workshops are…

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