NLP Tips – Week 2

The NLP Tips’ series on Twitter has now completed its second experimental week of daily tips. This Blog article enlarges on the Twitter tips since these are restricted to just 140 characters – and enables people who don’t use Twitter to have access to the tips. It also provides a little more information about each of the tips – particularly for people who are not familiar with NLP.

Day 8. NLP Meta Model – Cause & Effect

“This made me feel…” Be more in control of you by considering: How has my own thinking/reacting unintentionally created this mood?

The NLP Meta Model has been described as the “study of fuzzy thinking” because each of the 13 patterns identifies a particular style of unclear thinking.  One of the central themes in the NLP Practitioner Programme, the Meta Model enables us to recognise the beliefs which support a person’s attitude.

In the Cause and Effect pattern we believe that other people and outside events can cause our moods to change — without our having any say in the matter. This is a widely held, and rarely questioned, belief which is inculcated into us from childhood.

Posted Sunday 13 February 2011

Day 9. NLP Meta Model – ‘Rules’

Challenge your own self talk: “I must, shouldn’t, have to”. Where did I learn these rules? Do they still apply in my life nowadays?

Another of the Meta Model patterns is Rules (or, to use the arcane terminology of early NLP, Model Operators of Necessity). in this pattern we can recognise from a person’s conversation the rules which they live by.  Sometimes these rules are still relevant in their lives as adults – but often they have been picked up during childhood years and have never been questioned or updated.

Posted Monday 14 February 2011

Day 10. NLP Meta Programmes Task & Relationship

Do you balance Task & Relationship. Get job done + build/maintain people side? Task-style managing can antagonise & lose goodwill.

The NLP Meta Programmes, which in Pegasus NLP are explored on the Master Practitioner, or ideally seen as a series of continuums (continua?)  which enable us to identify how a person is thinking and filtering information in a particular context.

In Task and Relationship we can identify whether a person is, at one extreme, prioritising getting the job done at all costs or, as the other extreme, speaking to cultivate the Relationship — the people side of things.  (Sometimes this is presented as Task, Relationship, and Ideas – or various other versions)

Meta Programmes are very useful in identifying managerial style.  For example, the extreme Task-oriented manager will be great at getting the job done but often at the expense of staff goodwill and team cohesion. On the other hand, the extreme Relationship-oriented manager will spend (waste?) a huge amount of time getting to know anybody and everybody – at the expense of getting the job done!

Posted Tue 15 Feb 2011

Day 11. NLP and State Change

Physiology is powerful in maintaining a negative mood. So change this first (move, stand, sit, walk) and then change your thinking.

Many people are attracted to NLP because of the huge range of practical and pragmatic methods to enable us to more effectively “drive our own bus’.

Because of the powerful manner in which our neurology and our chemistry operate it is possible, though not very easy, to change our mood through managing our thoughts.  However, if we first used physiological methods to loosen and shift the mood this clears the way for clear thinking – which will then have a more enduring effect. (Future NLP Tips will include methods for changing our physiology.)

Posted Wed 16 February 2011

Day 12. NLP and Anchoring

Help person change to a positive state by getting lots of details of a memory of success, confidence, relaxation, etc.

In Pegasus NLP we emphasise that Anchoring is best considered a phenomenon rather than a technique.  In other words anchoring is happening all the time because we are always associating our moods with events in our surroundings.

This explains why, if you are in your car and hear a particular song for the first time, the next time you hear that song you’re likely to be reminded of where you were when you first heard it. And why looking at holiday photographs brings back the emotion you experiencing at the time.  And why smell, or even the thought of, your favourite food causes your mouth to water.

You can use this anchoring phenomenon to conversationally change somebody’s mood by questioning them about happy or positive moments. this works best when “you go there, too” i.e. you’re not just firing questions at them but are joining them in the memory.

Posted Thursday February 17, 2011

Day 13. NLP Eye Accessing Cues – Auditory Digital

Eyes down to their left. Self talk, analysis, thinking through words, detached, unemotional mode.

Recognising when a person is using Auditory Digital processing indicates that they currently are into facts and figures and analytical thinking – and are probably not going to be usually impressed by your descriptions of how you feel… 🙂

Posted Friday February 18, 2011

Day 14. NLP Parts Negotiation

Replace the old therapeutic ‘treatment-based’ 6-Step Reframe with the more interactive, empowering & pragmatic Parts Negotiation.

The 6-Step Reframe method is much revered NLP therapeutic technique. Because it uses the hypnosis Fractionation Method the 6-Step Reframe does evoke a quite deep state of trance which works well for people who are happy to go into an hypnotic trance and be treated by the therapist.

However, during over 20 years working as a counsellor and psychotherapist, I found that the NLP Parts Negotiation Method worked better for my clients/customers. There were quite a number of reasons for this. For example, most of my customers tended to be very down-to-earth business people who were unprepared to “go under” or ‘be treated’ – and who wanted a method which they could continue to afterwards use by themselves.)

Posted Saturday February 19, 2011

Next week

That’s the past week’s summary. Starting tomorrow the Twitter NLP Tips has a theme for the week: how to use the Satir Stress Modes in dealing with difficult people. The Pegasus NLP Twitter name/address is @pegasusnlp

Not yet using Twitter?

You can use twitter on your mobile phone or your PC/Mac. There is a short and straightforward guide to using it on The Times website:

http://technology.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/tech_and_web/article5758076.ece