The ones with the bright eyes
An Ouch Moment! It could have been one of those squirmingly embarrassing evenings. It was a few years ago and, along with the two other trainers, I was at the […]
The ‘future on wheels’ pattern
People who are ‘going to’ have a great future The next Pegasus NLP Newsletter will be out shortly. It will be about people who have their ‘future on wheels’. The
NLP, Managing & Leading, and the Soft Skills
Managing and Leading in tougher times Managing and team leading in 2010 and beyond is more demanding than ever before with the challenge of raising and maintain morale and motivation
What’s beneath the word ‘Try’
‘I’ll try…’ It’s only a tiny word. Just 3 letters: T R Y Yet how a person uses the word ‘Try’ provides important clues to their beliefs and attitude. It’s
What’s beneath the words (1) ‘Hopefully’
There’s listening… and there’s really listening. Normally when we’re listening to somebody we tend to pay attention to what they are actually saying. We listen to the words, the sentences,
A very public appraisal (Part 2)
The cost of managers who don’t motivate No doubt Jack believes he is doing a good job in how he handled Mohan. In his view that’s the way to efficiently
NLP and Curiosity (2): Re-learn to be curious
Curiosity: being other-conscious rather than self-conscious Here is a previous article on curiosity When we are curious we are not self-absorbed. Our attention, instead of being on ourselves and how
A very public appraisal (Part 1)
How not to do an appraisal Sitting in Caffe Nero a few days ago I had the uncomfortable experience of watching and hearing a loud and brash young manager (unintentionally,
The joy of telling them they’re wrong!
No… you’re wrong! Sometimes the temptation is almost irresistible… to tell the other person just how wrong they are, that is. I experienced it this morning and, this time at
NLP and Curiosity (1)
Curiosity… There is a second article on curiosity here He was walking along beside me, looking around him – and being uncharacteristically quiet. Then, as four or five-year olds do,
NLP and (real) 'people-helping'
“I’m feeling overwhelmed” No less than three people (friends, relatives, colleagues) – in one day (today, that is) have said to me that they felt ‘stressed’ and they each described
Maintaining your NLP momentum
Stay on track Toward the end of every Pegasus NLP course the question arises of how to keep the momentum – the buzz of enthusiasm – going afterwards, when you’re
NLP & Rapport (5): You’ve got to invest – even in relationships
Time for change Back in the mid 70’s I got fed up earning quite good money but with little job satisfaction. I was in charge of the new computer department
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NLP & Rapport (4) ‘Gimme, gimme’ or Win-Win?
I want information!! She didn’t dither nor mess about. She got straight to the point. She wanted information which she knew she had a right to and she expected me to
NLP & Rapport (3): Rapport by skill – or by trial and error?
In relating with other people many of us unintentionally sabotage the rapport we are trying to create! Desperate to get along well with someone and to create a good impression
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NLP & Rapport (2): Communicating, talking… and listening?
Being ‘talked at’ It was a fairly dramatic example of being talked at. We were chatting on the phone and she was telling me about something. I attempted to ask
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NLP & Rapport (1): What is rapport?
What is rapport? Rapport is the feeling of being at ease and in tune with someone; it’s what we experience when engaging in a mutually satisfactory relationship. We have all
Trivialising NLP (again…)
‘I’ve learned NLP – I can tell if you’re lying’ Reading time 3 mins The hoary old myth of the NLP Lie Detector Technique came up again in today’s course
NLP & Goals (7): Preparing for action
There are articles on Goals and Values on our main website Goals and Values – your hot buttons (1) https://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values1.htm Goals and Values – your hot buttons (2) https://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values2.htm Goals
NLP & Goals (6): How to avoid inner values' conflict
There are articles on Goals and Values on our main website Goals and Values – your hot buttons (1) https://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values1.htm Goals and Values – your hot buttons (2) https://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values2.htm Goals
"Sorry, it's time to feel bad again – I've got a living to earn…"
I was feeling pretty good as I made my first coffee of the day at 7.10 am this morning (for the record it’s Saturday 16 January 2010). The snow had
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NLP & Goals: your Values Hierarchy
There are articles on Goals and Values on our main website Goals and Values – your hot buttons (1) https://nlp-now.co.uk/values-feelings-that-matter/ Goals and Values – your hot buttons (2) https://nlp-now.co.uk/values-important-hierarchy/ Goals or Dreams
NLP and why those 'Grand New Starts' so often fizzle out!
This month’s Pegasus NLP Newsletter is about how Grand New Starts, such as new year resolutions, begin with lots of enthusiasm and then quickly fizzle out. Why does this happen?
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NLP & Goals (4): what's important to you
There are articles on Goals and Values on our main website Goals and Values – your hot buttons (1) https://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values1.htm Goals and Values – your hot buttons (2) https://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values2.htm Goals
NLP & Goals (3) and Day Dreaming!
There are articles on Goals and Values on our main website Goals and Values – your hot buttons (1) https://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values1.htm Goals and Values – your hot buttons (2) https://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values2.htm Goals
NLP & Goals (2): Fool's gold or values-driven goals?
The articles on Goals and Values are now on our main website Goals and Values – your hot buttons (1) https://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values1.htm Goals and Values – your hot buttons (2) https://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values2.htm
NLP & Goals (1) and the 'Ouch Factor'!
Our articles on Goals and Values are now on our main website Goals and Values – your hot buttons (1) https://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values1.htm Goals and Values – your hot buttons (2) https://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values2.htm
NLP & Sales (2) 'We are proud to announce…'
Comments and emails about the first article in this series (NLP and Sales 1) got me thinking about what works and what doesn’t work in dealing with potential customers.. and
NLP and Sales (1): 'Hit-and-run' or long-term approach?
On last week’s NLP Trainer Training we were discussing the importance of customer satisfaction and long-term relationships in developing a training and consulting business. Coincidentally, I was this morning chatting
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