Sympathy vs. Respect (2)
The “Sympathy vs. Respect?” blog article produced lots of online and email responses. One common theme can be summarised: “I should be doing something even if the unhappy or unwell […]
Sympathy vs. Respect?
I’ve recently had reason and opportunity to think about the concept of sympathy. The feeling of sympathy, that is, for somebody who is unwell or unhappy or in difficult circumstances.
Get it right or learn-by-doing?
This months Pegasus NLP Newsletter arose out of observing the differing approaches and styles of different NLP Core Skills groups when doing the Spiders Web challenge on the Low Ropes
NLP Bore (2): You mustn't talk about problems!
In the second NLP Bore trait other people are not allowed to ‘be negative’. They must remain in a permanently positive frame of mind otherwise they’ll be ‘NLPed’. So you
Are you an NLP visual or kinaesthetic or auditory?
Diagnosing or categorising or labelling people contradicts the spirit of NLP. So somebody who labels others as a “visual” or a “towards person” or a “Blamer” or a “Placater” is
NLP and solving other's problems
That urge to help them with their problems This is something that comes up in every one of our NLP Practitioner Programmes probably because the people who gravitate to NLP
Don't dither – get on with it – and finish it!
It shouldn’t, but it does. Amaze me, that is, that after 30 years of using NLP I’m still learning about myself – and will, undoubtedly, still be doing so in
Okay, so what exactly is this NLP?
One of the things which a lot of people find difficult to explain simply and succinctly, despite their enthusiasm for the subject, is what exactly is NLP? It’s certainly a
UK TV’s Channel 4 has some ‘poignant’ 9/11 money spinners
The UK TV Station that’s sunk to to a new depth Reading time 5 mins There seems to be no depths to which the media will not slide to cheaply
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How to be an NLP Bore (1): The born-again NLPer
NLP can change lives. No question about it. But some workshops, and especially those in the high-energy, revivalist, ‘we teach through hypnosis’ camp, could do with having a sort of
NLP, the UK’s poor summer weather – and bus driving
Reading time 3 mins Lots of Tweets, lately, about how wet and cold weather, especially in summer, negatively influences our moods. Or seems to act as a trigger for us
Dealing with Interview and Examination 'Nerves'
It’s interesting how many of us reasonably competent and well-adjusted human beings can be reduced to gibbering wrecks at the prospect of an important examination or interview. For some of
You 'are' redundant…!
Around 7% of the UK workforce is now unemployed and the number is likely to continue rising throughout this year, according to ‘analysts’ or, if you prefer, people who are
Mad PCs and the un-obvious obvious
One minute the PC was working fine and the next minute it was as if an alien force had taken it over. Place the cursor over an e-mail in the
NLP and the High Ropes experience
The NLP Master Practitioner Programme finished on Thursday – 18 great days of NLP in three modules from February through May. And, as the weather was great, we had a
Caffeine-induced Panics
Many years ago, in my pre-NLP days, I was struggling to free myself from nicotine addiction. So I went to see a South London hypnotist who said he could ‘make
The Apprentice: when teamwork isn’t teamwork
‘Teamwork’ in The Apprentice Reading time 2 mins Last night’s episode of the BBC’s The Apprentice didn’t do any of the participants any favours – other than to make them
Confidence without Competence – 'The Apprentice' is back
The BBC launched a new series of The Apprentice last evening here in the UK and so, over the next three months, 12 precious hours of my life will be
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The NLP 'matching body language' technique
We’re into Day 2 of the current NLP Core Skills programme. It’s a great group, as always, and as part of today’s schedule we have been exploring NLP and Rapport.
Doom & Gloom Special (Part 2)
Doom & Gloom (Part 2) – our unbiased BBC. Part 1 is here The BBC is internationally recognised as being a reliable, respected and unbiased source of information on what
Doom and Gloom Special (Part 1)
The end of the world is nigh (again) This month’s Pegasus NLP Newsletter explores, through NLP eyes, how the new media is reporting the current international financial difficulties. Using the
London's annual NLP Conference
I’ve just been to the annual NLP Conference in London. The conference has been running for about 20 years but this was my first visit after about 14 or more
Toxic Relationship Game #2: Now, don't get me wrong…
This Toxic Relationship Game is about status. The expert player has a range of tools for putting you in your place (which is in a lower status to them) and
Toxic Relationship Games #1: Tell me I'm wonderful
Looking for fans People who run the ‘Tell me I’m wonderful’ pattern or programme are looking for fans rather than friends. They regale you with tales of their exploits and
The world is what you make it
Like a lot of people I’d been taught at home and at school that you treat others as you’d like to be treated. And that, as a result, they’ll treat you well.
What I wasn’t taught is that this is an ideal – and that some people don’t buy into it.
NLP robbed me of my sulk!
Looking back I don’t why I did it. Over mothered? Dropped on my head at birth? It doesn’t really matter, the point is I was prone to the odd tantrum.
KISS in NLP: Keep it straightforward and simple
NLP in Plain English? NLP has been around since the early 1970’s. And, among other things, NLP has always sought to improve the quality of interpersonal communication. Except, perhaps, in