Daily NLP Tips
The new daily NLP Tips series on Twitter is for people who have had some experience of NLP. This is because anything other than a reminder of an NLP concept or process would be impossible to squeeze into 140 characters – it’s a tough enough challenge as it is 🙂
I’m planning on keeping the series going for a few weeks, at least, until I get a sense of how useful it is proving to people. I will also repost the Tips here on the Pegasus NLP Blog, along with some explanatory notes, every week or two. This is to enable people who don’t use Twitter to have access to them.
And if you do use Twitter you can follow the NLP Tips: @pegasusnlp
Day 1. The Sameness & Difference Meta Programme
Meta Programmes reminder: Sameness – first recognises how things are similar. Difference – first recognises how things are not similar. Posted Saturday, 7 February 2011.
Sameness-Difference is one of the most useful of the NLP Meta Programmes. It helps explain why some people like lots of change and variety in their lives while others prefer continuity and stability.
Day 2. Rapport through body language matching
Rapport: body language matching (most risky, liable to intrude). Match only one area e,g. torso position Allow 10-20 secs before matching. Posted on Saturday, 7 February 2011.
As already mentioned in the blog articles below the Body Language method of creating rapport is risky since it is likely to intrude into the awareness of the other person who may well misconstrue it as an attempt to manipulate or to mimic them. Nevertheless it will work quite well if done very subtly, with the 10-20 seconds delay mentioned above, and against a background of the 4 Rs.
http://pegasusnlpblog.com/nlp-rapport-6-nlp-body-language-method
Day 3. PICOORE in mapping a ‘system’
Use PICOORE to organise info about the system: Problem. Impact. Causes. Objective. Obstacles. Resources. Ecology. Posted Sunday, 8 February 2011.
The well-known NLP S.C.O.R.E. Model works well providing you juggle the elements and add one or two more. The Pegasus NLP remodelling of this may not roll off the tongue as easily as the original but it does provide a more logical sequence for gathering, organising, mapping out, and recognising the relationahips between the elements involved in any system – whether this be that of a person, a relationship, a team, a community, or an organisaton.
This “remodelling” came out of our last NLP Master Practitioner and is still in ‘ beta’ stage.
Day 4. The NLP Accessing ‘cues’ or indicators
Accessing Cues. Visual: eyes up or ahead, voice fast & high pitched, gestures to head and upper chest, sometimes breathless, shoulders high. Posted Monday, 9 February 2011.
In NLP we pay a lot of attention to non-verbal communication and especially to information which indicates, or provides clues, as to how person is thinking. The most useful and easily learned of these clues are the famous are Eye Accessing Indicators or Cues.
There are a number of Pegasus NLP articles on the eye accessing cues:
http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_eye_accessing_cues.htm
http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/eye_accessing.htm
Day 5. NLP and Curiosity
Einstein, curiosity & NLP: A miracle that Curiosity survives formal education + …thing is not to stop questioning. C has its own reason for existing. Posted Tuesday, 10 February 2011.
As part of the attitude out of which NLP grew, curiosity is fundamental to the NLP Attitude. Without an active sense of curiosity the use of NLP becomes a mere “painting by numbers” process.
Well before NLP even existed Albert Einstein was encouraging people people to recognise the value of being curious. He could only exhort people to do this – using NLP methods we can now enable people to speedily enhance their ability to be curious.
Day 6. The Comfort Stretch Panic Model
‘Comfort, 10% Stretch, Panic’: “Life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better” Emerson http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/stretch_yourself.htm Posted Friday, 11 February 2011
The Comfort, Stretch, Panic Model plus the 10% New approach to introducing change in one’s life have always been central to the Pegasus approach to, and style of, NLP. In everyday life change is constant, with much of this change being outside of our control. We can either accept it, adapt to it, reframe it, or rail against it. The old saying ‘It’s not what happens to us but what we do with what happens to us” applies.
I love Emerson’s quotations; he’s another one of those people who was using the NLP attitude before NLP existed.
Day 7. What’s it like to be in their shoes?
NLP Perceptual Positions (Diff Perspectives) – in 2nd Position include their day so far, circumstances, & history of dealing with you. Posted Saturday, 12 February 2011.
The NLP Perceptual Positions technique or, as we more simply term it in Pegasus NLP, Different Perspectives is one of the simplest yet most useful of the NLP Techniques.
In life so many people attempt to communicate with (at?) others without taking into account what it’s like to be in the other person’s shoes. And putting oneself in their shoes or adopting their “different perspective” includes, in advance of communicating with the person, spending a few minutes in getting a sense of their likely expectations and needs — plus their previous experience of dealing with us. As Stephen Covey succinctly puts it: Seek first to understand – before being understood.
See also http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/perceptual.htm.