I was asked for advice on what to do about anger – so I explained as simply as possible how we do the Anger Habit: People who get angry (let’s just say it’s ‘us’) do so because we have a strong sense of justice and fairness… We believe/decide that something is not fair or is…

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Driving your own bus? Or back-seat passenger? Bad times or learning opportunities? What’s your favourite screw-up, setback, mistake, weak spot, etc. What’s pretty well guaranteed to have you in an unpleasant mood?  For example: Do you forget things? And then give yourself a hard time about it. Do you get irritable? And then blame yourself…

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Being ‘talked at’ It was a fairly dramatic example of being talked at. We were chatting on the phone and she was telling me about something. I attempted to ask about a point she’d just made – but the flow of talking continued unabated. I then used my favourite technique for getting somebody’s attention (it…

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