The “Sympathy vs. Respect?” blog article produced lots of online and email responses.  One common theme can be summarised:  “I should be doing something even if the unhappy or unwell person doesn’t want it!” Sam and Ulrica I have made a composite of the comments and come up with a typical scenario: 1. Uneasy Ulrica […]

I’ve recently had reason and opportunity to think about the concept of sympathy. The feeling of sympathy, that is, for somebody who is unwell or unhappy or in difficult circumstances. It’s quite normal or natural or understandable to feel sadness or even unhappiness for somebody who is going through a difficult time. And, if this

This months Pegasus NLP Newsletter arose out of observing the differing approaches and styles of different NLP Core Skills groups when doing the Spiders Web challenge on the Low Ropes course – and afterwards reviewing their experience with them. The Spiders Web challenge is web a made of light rope and is about 2 m

In the second NLP Bore trait other people are not allowed to ‘be negative’. They must remain in a permanently positive frame of mind otherwise they’ll be ‘NLPed’. So you can’t discuss your problems – that’s not positive. You can’t talk about your difficulties – because we have to deal with process and not with

Diagnosing or categorising or labelling people contradicts the spirit of NLP. So somebody who labels others as a “visual” or a “towards person” or a “Blamer” or a “Placater” is demonstrating their lack of understanding of what NLP is all about. In one of the best original books on NLP, NLP Volume I, Robert Dilts

It shouldn’t, but it does. Amaze me, that is, that after 30 years of using NLP I’m still learning about myself – and will, undoubtedly, still be doing so in 30 years time. (This was written in 2009). Take for example, my most recent lesson. It can be encapsulated pithily: “Don’t dither – get on

One of the things which a lot of people find difficult to explain simply and succinctly, despite their enthusiasm for the subject, is what exactly is NLP? It’s certainly a question I used to have difficulty in answering briefly and in plain English. Someone would ask ‘Okay, so what exactly is this NLP?’ And 5

The UK TV Station that’s sunk to to a new depth Reading time 5 mins There seems to be no depths to which the media will not slide to cheaply fill viewing time and/or get ratings. For a moment I thought I was seeing things when I noticed that UK’s Channel 4 is tonight running

NLP can change lives. No question about it. But some workshops, and especially those in the high-energy, revivalist, ‘we teach through hypnosis’ camp, could do with having a sort of health warning attached as in ‘NLP could damage your relationships.’ For example, let’s say Jack is like most of us. He has high and low

Around 7% of the UK workforce is now unemployed and the number is likely to continue rising throughout this year, according to ‘analysts’ or, if you prefer, people who are often no better at predicting the future than you or I but who have mastered the art of sounding as if they are! These redundancies

The NLP Master Practitioner Programme finished on Thursday – 18 great days of NLP in three modules from February through May. And, as the weather was great, we had a High Ropes session on Thursday. The High Ropes is a feature of many of our NLP courses including 5-day in-depth NLP Core Skills. When taking

Doom & Gloom (Part 2) – our unbiased BBC. Part 1 is here The BBC is internationally recognised as being a reliable, respected and unbiased source of information on what is going on in the world and particularly in the UK. Here in the UK every morning, Monday through Saturday, some 7,000,000 people tune in

The end of the world is nigh (again) This month’s Pegasus NLP Newsletter explores, through NLP eyes, how the new media is reporting the current international financial difficulties. Using the NLP method of seeking the ‘intention’ or purpose or motivation behind that behaviour, we explore the possibility that the news media (newspapers, radio and television)

I’ve just been to the annual NLP Conference in London. The conference has been running for about 20 years but this was my first visit after about 14 or more years and what a delightful and encouraging experience!

This Toxic Relationship Game is about status. The expert player has a range of tools for putting you in your place (which is in a lower status to them) and all are based on knocking you down and then building up again in a way which makes you feel appreciative of their friendship and support!

Looking for fans People who run the ‘Tell me I’m wonderful’ pattern or programme are looking for fans rather than friends. They regale you with tales of their exploits and successes and deals. The hint at their charm and charisma And they are very insistent that you listen to and appreciate every little detail –

Like a lot of people I’d been taught at home and at school that you treat others as you’d like to be treated. And that, as a result, they’ll treat you well.

What I wasn’t taught is that this is an ideal – and that some people don’t buy into it.

Looking back I don’t why I did it.  Over mothered? Dropped on my head at birth? It doesn’t really matter, the point is I was prone to the odd tantrum. It is possible, painful though it is to admit, that I actually enjoyed it; wearing a little hurt on my sleeve as I bravely ‘soldiered’

NLP in Plain English? NLP has been around since the early 1970’s.  And, among other things, NLP has always sought to improve the quality of interpersonal communication. Except, perhaps, in one area – the teaching of NLP, itself. Even in the early days would-be NLPers had to wrestle with a wonderfully obscure terminology including such