NLP in Daily Life

Staying in the ‘stretch’ – just! by Matt Swain Pegasus NLP has a model called ‘10% New’; it has a nice ring to it and means constantly stretching ourselves.  The more we stay in stretch the more our unconscious recognises this and re-normalises our comfort zone. When I began with Pegasus many years ago, middle

Be careful what you ask for… One of the things I’ve always associated with Christmas was lines of Christmas cards on the mantelpiece and just about any flat surface in the living room. This association goes right back to when I was a child. Then about 10-12 years ago I totted up the cost of

Conversations with some people are a bit like this. They have to ‘get it off their chest’ before they are able to listen. They are not selfish. They are not disinterested in what you have to say. They simply need a few moments while they think aloud. Yes, okay, sometimes they do need quite a few moments especially if it is something they are worked up about – like ‘the situation at work’. When they are excited, or angry, or confused, or worried they’ve got all this stuff going on inside – images and feelings and words. Their thoughts and emotions are in a whirl.

“Procedures” specialists get things done, according to a plan – and efficiently. “Options” specialists like to go with the flow – as the mood takes them – and do it their way…

The short answer to the question ‘how can I use NLP?’ is that often there isn’t a short answer. And what’s the slightly less-short answer? It’s usually better to first use NLP ‘map out’ the problem to identify how it works. Just doing this can have a huge impact.

When team members are not required or encouraged to compete with one another this ‘pulling together’ usually happens spontaneously. And this is an opportunity missed by so many organisations: the ones which talk a good talk about how ‘we’re all part of a team’ – and then go on to kill this ideal by requiring people to compete with one another for career advancement!

The NLP Disney Strategy for turning wishes and dreams into workable plans gets things ready to get the ball rolling. Once you’ve got your Plan it’s time to get it actually rolling – and keep it rolling.
For this you need (1) Milestones + Action Steps and (2) Motivation to stick at it. This article explains how..

The NLP Disney Strategy  (1) ‘Well, I had this great idea once…but…’ How many great ideas have you come up with… and never followed through on them? Going for that new job or promotion? Or the exercise and weight management programme that would make all the difference? Or the new business venture you were thinking

A handshake only lasts two or three seconds yet it can influence how the other person feels about you for a long time. This article contains a few tips on making a good physical impression.

eBay took over 3 months to tell people their passwords had been hacked. Using a Password Manager would not have protected you – but the complex passwords such programmes can generate would have deterred all but the most determined and resourceful hackers

Negative hot buttons It happens to everyone from time to time. One minute you’re in a great mood, thinking clearly, looking on the bright side of life. Then something happens and your mood changes and you feel down or irritable. Each of these is an example of an automatic neuro-chemical programmes that in NLP is

It’s a common and quite uncomfortable experience: life suddenly seems too complex, there’s too much to deal with, too many insurmountable problems – and you just want to hide away from it all. Everything has bunched up to create an emotional log-jam! Deal with this in three stages…

I love this story. Bullied at school for, believe it or not, having red hair Louis Evans has gone on to become one of Europe’s top fashion models.

…and your own language Typical local news headline: “Woman, 85, injured in collision with bus.” Why is it never the much more likely “Bus in collision with woman”? After all it’s hardly likely that she ran along the footpath, put on a burst of speed and launched herself at the bus. Language, how messages are

“Everyone’s doin’ it” Sometimes it seems that everyone’s at it. Doing what…? They are trying to influence others by talking at them. In other words by relying on quantity rather than quality of words and information to change emotions. They remind me of those old mechanical monkey toys where you wind up the toy and it