Why do people sometimes seem to be their own worst enemies? They eat too much, drink too much, work too hard etc. despite advice and evidence that it is not […]
Advice giving: Why won’t they take the advice – and change! More
Daily NLP Tips The new daily NLP Tips series on Twitter is for people who have had some experience of NLP. This is because anything other than a reminder of
NLP, Bodywork and group hugs In the early 80’s as I was exploring NLP I also became interested in bodywork as another route to personal development. As the name suggests
It's time for a group hug! More
Self Talk has its uses … A lot of us who do our thinking primarily through self talk or, as we term it in NLP, through Auditory Digital thinking, try
Replace (some) mental chatter with The Daily Plan More
Driving your own bus? Or back-seat passenger? Bad times or learning opportunities? What’s your favourite screw-up, setback, mistake, weak spot, etc. What’s pretty well guaranteed to have you in an
Rapport: the first essential in communicating One of the first “challenges” in becoming an effective communicator is knowing how to create the right atmosphere for effective communicating to occur. Take
How we programme our own moods How we interpret events and then have feelings as a result of our own interpretation is the main topic in today’s Pegasus NLP Newsletter.
Attaching Meaning: NLP Meta Model More
It’s bank holiday weekend! The Dorset Coast, when I live, is a popular visitor destination and I’ve long ago learned from the locals that it’s best to avoid travelling locally
Do you give yourself a hard time…? What you do when you slip up? When you make a mistake, forget something, screw up, open your mouth and (metaphorically) put your
Beating yourself up about things More
For many people there is a certain satisfaction in giving others good advice on how to solve their problems or live their lives. And these people find it quite frustrating
Advice giving: Why don’t they follow my advice? More
NLP and traditional health enhancement Before I began to specialise in NLP training I ran stress management workshops for a number of years beginning back in 1983. Often I would
Boring old "relaxation"… and our health More
The Get it Right attitude (2) In Part 1 we looked at the way the Get it Right attitude works and I suggested having a think about how it works
The Get it Right Attitude (2 of 2) More
The Get it Right Attitude You’ve probably encountered the ‘get it right attitude’. It’s the one that is backed up by clichés such as ‘if a job’s worth doing it’s
The Get It Right Attitude (Part 1 of 2) More
NLP techniques don’t work for me! Not long ago I got an email: ‘I have been reading … (naming a well-known NLP-based self improvement book) and listening to the accompanying
Is NLP only for ‘good visualisers’? More
We’d like you to train our team The regional manager for the multinational had taken part, as a private individual, in our NLP Core Skills course a few months earlier
Should we teach NLP skills to everyone? More
An Ouch Moment! It could have been one of those squirmingly embarrassing evenings. It was a few years ago and, along with the two other trainers, I was at the
The ones with the bright eyes More
People who are ‘going to’ have a great future The next Pegasus NLP Newsletter will be out shortly. It will be about people who have their ‘future on wheels’. The
The ‘future on wheels’ pattern More
Managing and Leading in tougher times Managing and team leading in 2010 and beyond is more demanding than ever before with the challenge of raising and maintain morale and motivation
NLP, Managing & Leading, and the Soft Skills More
‘I’ll try…’ It’s only a tiny word. Just 3 letters: T R Y Yet how a person uses the word ‘Try’ provides important clues to their beliefs and attitude. It’s
What’s beneath the word ‘Try’ More
There’s listening… and there’s really listening. Normally when we’re listening to somebody we tend to pay attention to what they are actually saying. We listen to the words, the sentences,
What’s beneath the words (1) ‘Hopefully’ More
The cost of managers who don’t motivate No doubt Jack believes he is doing a good job in how he handled Mohan. In his view that’s the way to efficiently
A very public appraisal (Part 2) More
Curiosity: being other-conscious rather than self-conscious Here is a previous article on curiosity When we are curious we are not self-absorbed. Our attention, instead of being on ourselves and how
NLP and Curiosity (2): Re-learn to be curious More
How not to do an appraisal Sitting in Caffe Nero a few days ago I had the uncomfortable experience of watching and hearing a loud and brash young manager (unintentionally,
A very public appraisal (Part 1) More
No… you’re wrong! Sometimes the temptation is almost irresistible… to tell the other person just how wrong they are, that is. I experienced it this morning and, this time at
The joy of telling them they’re wrong! More
Curiosity… There is a second article on curiosity here He was walking along beside me, looking around him – and being uncharacteristically quiet. Then, as four or five-year olds do,
“I’m feeling overwhelmed” No less than three people (friends, relatives, colleagues) – in one day (today, that is) have said to me that they felt ‘stressed’ and they each described
NLP and (real) 'people-helping' More
Stay on track Toward the end of every Pegasus NLP course the question arises of how to keep the momentum – the buzz of enthusiasm – going afterwards, when you’re
Maintaining your NLP momentum More
Time for change Back in the mid 70’s I got fed up earning quite good money but with little job satisfaction. I was in charge of the new computer department
NLP & Rapport (5): You’ve got to invest – even in relationships More
