NLP and the T.A.T.E Model The T.A.T.E. Model is great for identifying what accounts for success or failure in how we do things. We use it in our NLP Practitioner courses and it’s simply an adaptation of the famous T.O.T.E. model which was published over fifty years ago by Miller, Gallanter and Pribram. Simply put, […]
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Living vicariously – or living This month’s Pegasus NLP Newsletter is about the difference between living a fulfilling life and living your life second hand – i.e. really Living or living vicariously. Many of us don’t live very fulfilling lives. We get by from day to day in comfort but without a real sense of fulfilment
Let's get away from it all Read More »
NLP Hype The five of us were sitting in the sunshine outside a café in the lovely little Victorian town of Swanage this morning – Julie, Peter, their two boys, and myself. And despite our best intentions the conversation drifted back to NLP – a few times. We got to remarking on the NLP Hype
Time to smell the roses Read More »
What’s it like for would-be customers’? The car ahead of me had stickers advertising their service. I could tell that much because of the big lettering on the car boot (i.e. trunk in the US). They also had their mobile telephone number in big bright letters across the width of the boot, too, so would-be customers
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The Reviewing Model The Reviewing Model is one of those deceptively simple yet powerful methods for learning through doing and reviewing. That’s why we use in our Pegasus NLP courses. What is it? The model provides a quick-and-easy three-step structure for learning and benefiting from your experience – any experience: Step 1. What? What did
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NLP Tips – Week 2 The NLP Tips’ series on Twitter has now completed its second experimental week of daily tips. This Blog article enlarges on the Twitter tips since these are restricted to just 140 characters – and enables people who don’t use Twitter to have access to the tips. It also provides a
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Why do people sometimes seem to be their own worst enemies? They eat too much, drink too much, work too hard etc. despite advice and evidence that it is not good for them. Despite the trouble it causes. Despite the side effects. Despite, in some cases, even the threat of losing their liberty. This is
Advice giving: Why won’t they take the advice – and change! Read More »
Daily NLP Tips The new daily NLP Tips series on Twitter is for people who have had some experience of NLP. This is because anything other than a reminder of an NLP concept or process would be impossible to squeeze into 140 characters – it’s a tough enough challenge as it is 🙂 I’m planning
NLP, Bodywork and group hugs In the early 80’s as I was exploring NLP I also became interested in bodywork as another route to personal development. As the name suggests bodywork is about physical ways of enabling oneself and others to get to know ourselves better and to feel better. My experimenting took me into
It's time for a group hug! Read More »
Self Talk has its uses … A lot of us who do our thinking primarily through self talk or, as we term it in NLP, through Auditory Digital thinking, try to keep track of everything going on in our lives “in our heads”. And if you have a very busy life and have lots of
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Driving your own bus? Or back-seat passenger? Bad times or learning opportunities? What’s your favourite screw-up, setback, mistake, weak spot, etc. What’s pretty well guaranteed to have you in an unpleasant mood? For example: What’s common to these? The common factor in all of these questions is the implication that unpleasant moods don’t happen to
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It’s bank holiday weekend! The Dorset Coast, when I live, is a popular visitor destination and I’ve long ago learned from the locals that it’s best to avoid travelling locally on bank holiday weekends. But yesterday I took a chance. And got caught in a traffic jam. It wasn’t a long one – just about
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Do you give yourself a hard time…? What you do when you slip up? When you make a mistake, forget something, screw up, open your mouth and (metaphorically) put your foot in it, do something embarrassing, etc. Well, if you’re like most of us you probably do give yourself a hard time about it. You
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For many people there is a certain satisfaction in giving others good advice on how to solve their problems or live their lives. And these people find it quite frustrating when, after carefully designing and delivering the advice, the recipient doesn’t follow it: they either ignore it completely or follow for a while and then
Advice giving: Why don’t they follow my advice? Read More »
The Get it Right attitude (2) In Part 1 we looked at the way the Get it Right attitude works and I suggested having a think about how it works in your own life and what it’s cost you to date. If you’ve done this you’ll be aware of the lost opportunities resulting from it;
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NLP techniques don’t work for me! Not long ago I got an email: ‘I have been reading … (naming a well-known NLP-based self improvement book) and listening to the accompanying CD which a friend of mine has used quite successfully and recommended to me. I am struggling with it because much of it seems to
Is NLP only for ‘good visualisers’? Read More »
We’d like you to train our team The regional manager for the multinational had taken part, as a private individual, in our NLP Core Skills course a few months earlier and (of course 🙂 ) was very impressed with it. So much so that he was now approaching us to quote for a training programme.
Should we teach NLP skills to everyone? Read More »
People who are ‘going to’ have a great future The next Pegasus NLP Newsletter will be out shortly. It will be about people who have their ‘future on wheels’. The ones (unlike you or I!) who talk a great talk about the wonderful future they are going to have. But who never seem to get
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Managing and Leading in tougher times Managing and team leading in 2010 and beyond is more demanding than ever before with the challenge of raising and maintain morale and motivation in a smaller workforce in which people: Soft skills… or Subtle Skills? To counteract these trends managers needs to be highly skilled in what used
NLP, Managing & Leading, and the Soft Skills Read More »
‘I’ll try…’ It’s only a tiny word. Just 3 letters: T R Y Yet how a person uses the word ‘Try’ provides important clues to their beliefs and attitude. It’s a very common and quite sneaky little word that’s often used without much thought – almost as a figure of speech, in fact. But what
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There’s listening… and there’s really listening. Normally when we’re listening to somebody we tend to pay attention to what they are actually saying. We listen to the words, the sentences, the descriptions, the story line, etc. As a result we may have feelings about them and what they are saying. Yet we are really just
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The cost of managers who don’t motivate No doubt Jack believes he is doing a good job in how he handled Mohan. In his view that’s the way to efficiently breeze through an appraisal: tick all the right boxes to keep HR happy and make sure your people know who’s in charge. (By the way,
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How not to do an appraisal Sitting in Caffe Nero a few days ago I had the uncomfortable experience of watching and hearing a loud and brash young manager (unintentionally, I think) humiliating a soft-spoken direct report. As appraisals go it was a pretty thorough example of how not to do it. Rapport – what
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No… you’re wrong! Sometimes the temptation is almost irresistible… to tell the other person just how wrong they are, that is. I experienced it this morning and, this time at least, I did resist the temptation and decided to write this blog instead. Pass on the word It seemed like a good idea (it still
The joy of telling them they’re wrong! Read More »
I want information!! She didn’t dither nor mess about. She got straight to the point. She wanted information which she knew she had a right to and she expected me to give to her! Her email arrived today via our web contact form and read: ‘I am actually getting fear of closed spaces I want to
NLP & Rapport (4) ‘Gimme, gimme’ or Win-Win? Read More »
In relating with other people many of us unintentionally sabotage the rapport we are trying to create! Desperate to get along well with someone and to create a good impression that we try too hard. As result we come across as nervous, tense, jumpy, pushy, preoccupied, or bossy – or a confusing mix of all
NLP & Rapport (3): Rapport by skill – or by trial and error? Read More »
Being ‘talked at’ It was a fairly dramatic example of being talked at. We were chatting on the phone and she was telling me about something. I attempted to ask about a point she’d just made – but the flow of talking continued unabated. I then used my favourite technique for getting somebody’s attention (it
NLP & Rapport (2): Communicating, talking… and listening? Read More »
I was feeling pretty good as I made my first coffee of the day at 7.10 am this morning (for the record it’s Saturday 16 January 2010). The snow had not affected plans for the 3rd module of our NLP Master Practitioner Programme – and I was looking forward to going in to facilitate today’s
"Sorry, it's time to feel bad again – I've got a living to earn…" Read More »
There are articles on Goals and Values on our main website Goals and Values – your hot buttons (1) https://nlp-now.co.uk/values-feelings-that-matter/ Goals and Values – your hot buttons (2) https://nlp-now.co.uk/values-important-hierarchy/ Goals or Dreams (1) https://nlp-now.co.uk/make-goals-realistic/ Goals or Dreams (2) https://nlp-now.co.uk/make-goals-achievable/ People who are going to have a great future https://nlp-now.co.uk/your-future-on-wheels/ NLP in Selling: https://nlp-now.co.uk/nlp-in-sales/ Using stress to motivate When pain can be a
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