The so-called ‘official’ day for feeling bad. A week ago on Monday 18 January 2011 it was ‘Blue Monday’, reputedly the most depressing day of the year, or so we’re told. Mind you, it could have been last Monday (25th) – no-one seems quite sure. (By the way, this was written in 2011 – but […]
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Petty People at work Reading time 3 mins Petty People like to divide and conquer – to play the ‘enemies and allies’ game. In their eyes, you’re either with them or against them. Side with them and life is fine. Disagree with them and they’ll aim to make life miserable for you. So, obviously they
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The new team forms Reading time 6 mins On the Low Ropes course you are part of a small group of 5-8 people who have to resolve a number of non-strenuous team challenges and problem-solving activities and, ideally, become a team in the process. You don’t know one another – you’ve met for the first
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Treat ‘Why?’ as an attack question! We pay a lot of attention to words in NLP. We think about: For example, take that little word WHY? Harmless enough, isn’t it? After all, it’s a little word of just 3 letters – w – h – y (plus the necessary ?) so why make a fuss about it?
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NLP and driving: you can drive courteously because it helps keep the traffic flowing smoothly – or because it makes you feel good. And because it causes ripples of goodwill.
Driving: you can spread the smile – or the scowl Read More »
Dealing with people who intimidate us There is a simple-yet-powerful little NLP technique for dealing with an unwanted reaction to somebody – such as when The technique is deceptively simple and takes about 5 minutes yet many people with whom I’ve used it have found it to be an eye opener. How does it work?
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The NLP TATE or TOTE model is a valuable method for recognising the steps which we go through in something as simple and automatic as eating. Recognising our personal ‘eating steps’ makes eating management and weight or size management more manageable.
It’s not just what you eat… Read More »
Or how to not be intimidated by your own thoughts! NLP is well-known for its great range of techniques for changing you you think, feel and communicate. But, deep down, NLP is really a ‘modelling’ process – a set of skills for identifying what makes us tick: how we have thoughts, how we create our emotions,
How to eat an airplane! Read More »
An NLP way to decide where you’re going One great thing about NLP is how it enables us to be surgically precise in analysing a situation in order to improve it. For example, let’s say you’re planning to make a presentation. The first question to ask yourself is WHY? At first the answer seems obvious: I’m doing
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The gifted few Reading time 3 mins It used to be that some people we regarded as gifted communicators and everyone else had to work hard at developing their skills. Then, just over 50 years ago, along came NLP which began identifying the skills that the apparently ‘gifted’ communicators used. One of many obvious-once-it’s-pointed-out discoveries
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The lights went out Just as darkness was approaching yesterday afternoon the electricity supply in the house disappeared. Suddenly there was no power, no lighting and no heating. And it is mid-winter here on the UK’s south coast. And it is dark here from about 4 pm until nearly 8 am. And it is quite
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Lots of people talk a good talk – they have great dreams but never make them come true. With NLP we can map out the 5 steps that need to be followed in turning a dream into reality.
Dreams into Reality – the 5 steps Read More »
Different languages! Reading time 3 mins The rush-hour train from London was crowded but I got a seat at a table in the noisy, smoky buffet section. (This was just before smoking in public places was outlawed in the UK). So I was sitting there, listening to relaxing music in the headphones to drown out
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Time to sell yourself Many people attend job interviews or on-job appraisals with a naive belief that if the look good, feel confident, and do a good job of answering questions they’ll succeed. This approach is naive because to is not taking into account the dynamics operating oin an interview and, especially, it is not
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Self esteem is not a thing – it’s simply a way of thinking This week’s Pegasus NLP Newsletter is about self esteem. And how, whether it be high or low, self esteem is simply a habit – a habitual way of thinking about ourselves. As American psychologist and philosopher William James observed about 100 years ago ‘All
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Life coaching – 5 tips for amateurs! (1) You’re already a life coach You’re a life coach whenever you help a person with a difficulty: teacher, manager, parent, friend, professional coach’. The term life coach describes a person whose profession involves helping others overcome their difficulties and achieve their goals. But we all act as ‘amateur’
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NLP insights into how people think Reading time 4 mins In NLP we act as if we have six main ways of thinking, or ‘representing’ or processing information i.e. our five senses + our ability to think through self talk and analysis. We call these representational systems, or rep systems. And, of these six, the
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The Minister speaks I was looking forward to seeing how the professional speaker would address the audience. He was a UK Government Minister and the keynote speaker at the conference. I was in the audience for the opening session because I would later be presenting a workshop at the conference. My heart sank when he
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Mention ‘brand’ and most people think about sales and marketing. But ‘brand’ can be a much wider topic if we think about it as being the emotions which people associate with people as well as with products. (The following list was posted on our Twitter account. We no longer use Twitter.) How is your career
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But is anger a habit? Looking at the visitor statistics for this blog, I noticed that this year’s most visited blog article so far is ‘How we do the Anger Habit.’ In the 8 months since it was published it has been viewed just under 1800 times. This is great and yet what I find
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I don’t like wasting time People who are consistently late for appointments or meetings tends to share a particular trait. They don’t like waiting around – it’s a waste of time. In their eyes arriving 5 or 10 minutes early for an appointment wastes valuable time that could be spent on other things. So they
The Self Consciousness ‘Habit’(*) Last week’s newsletter and blog article on Self Consciousness produced quite a few e-mails, including one from Bob (not his real name) who is in his mid-30’s, has had the self consciousness habit all of his life and finds that it’s getting in the way of his finding a life partner.
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Reading time – 5 mins Yesterday’s announcement that the News of the World was to close down got me thinking of branding – and how easily a brand can become damaged. Branding – just what is it? What actually is a ‘brand’? Well, there’s the literal and comprehensive version and the down-to-earth NLP version. The
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NLP is great, wonderful, amazing etc etc It goes like this; you’ve been interested in and using NLP for a while and have found that it has made a difference in your life. You’ve used it to solve some problems and to make a few valuable breakthroughs in how you think, feel and communicate. And
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I should have remembered I was intently watching the car park meter slowly printing my ticket when a woman’s voice behind me said “Would you have a 5P piece?” I said “Yes, I think I have” and checked my change and, sure enough, there I had a 5P. As she counted out the penny coins
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