The 10% New approach in action
Staying in the ‘stretch’ – just! by Matt Swain Pegasus NLP has a model called ‘10% New’; it has a nice ring to it and means constantly stretching ourselves. The
Use your body to change your mind
Physical ways to feel good Sometimes positive thinking just doesn’t shift a negative mood. It’s as if the negative mood has such a grip that stronger stuff is needed. And that’s exactly
The Christmas card thing
Be careful what you ask for… One of the things I’ve always associated with Christmas was lines of Christmas cards on the mantelpiece and just about any flat surface in
Driving: you can spread the smile – or the scowl
NLP and driving: you can drive courteously because it helps keep the traffic flowing smoothly – or because it makes you feel good. And because it causes ripples of goodwill.
Let them offload first
Conversations with some people are a bit like this. They have to ‘get it off their chest’ before they are able to listen. They are not selfish. They are not disinterested in what you have to say. They simply need a few moments while they think aloud. Yes, okay, sometimes they do need quite a few moments especially if it is something they are worked up about – like ‘the situation at work’. When they are excited, or angry, or confused, or worried they’ve got all this stuff going on inside – images and feelings and words. Their thoughts and emotions are in a whirl.
Keep your options open? Or make an action plan and do it?
“Procedures” specialists get things done, according to a plan – and efficiently. “Options” specialists like to go with the flow – as the mood takes them – and do it their way…
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What can NLP do for me?
The short answer to the question ‘how can I use NLP?’ is that often there isn’t a short answer. And what’s the slightly less-short answer? It’s usually better to first use NLP ‘map out’ the problem to identify how it works. Just doing this can have a huge impact.
Teamwork, moving a tent, and an NLP group in the New Forest
When team members are not required or encouraged to compete with one another this ‘pulling together’ usually happens spontaneously. And this is an opportunity missed by so many organisations: the ones which talk a good talk about how ‘we’re all part of a team’ – and then go on to kill this ideal by requiring people to compete with one another for career advancement!
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How to turn your workable plan into… action
The NLP Disney Strategy for turning wishes and dreams into workable plans gets things ready to get the ball rolling. Once you’ve got your Plan it’s time to get it actually rolling – and keep it rolling.
For this you need (1) Milestones + Action Steps and (2) Motivation to stick at it. This article explains how..
Use NLP to turn wishes into workable plans
The NLP Disney Strategy (1) ‘Well, I had this great idea once…but…’ How many great ideas have you come up with… and never followed through on them? Going for that
What makes a 'good' handshake?
A handshake only lasts two or three seconds yet it can influence how the other person feels about you for a long time. This article contains a few tips on making a good physical impression.
Internet security & that eBay Password fiasco
eBay took over 3 months to tell people their passwords had been hacked. Using a Password Manager would not have protected you – but the complex passwords such programmes can generate would have deterred all but the most determined and resourceful hackers
NLP & Negative Anchors or 'Hot Buttons'
Negative hot buttons It happens to everyone from time to time. One minute you’re in a great mood, thinking clearly, looking on the bright side of life. Then something happens
‘Live in Day-Tight Compartments’
It’s a common and quite uncomfortable experience: life suddenly seems too complex, there’s too much to deal with, too many insurmountable problems – and you just want to hide away from it all. Everything has bunched up to create an emotional log-jam! Deal with this in three stages…
'Tough times never last – but tough people do'
I love this story. Bullied at school for, believe it or not, having red hair Louis Evans has gone on to become one of Europe’s top fashion models.
Listen to their language
…and your own language Typical local news headline: “Woman, 85, injured in collision with bus.” Why is it never the much more likely “Bus in collision with woman”? After all
Customer service is about individuals – not statistics
“Your call is important to us…” As the snow settled in last March the central heating boiler stopped working on a Friday afternoon. Fortunately I have an annual contract with
NLP and ‘intimidating people’
Dealing with people who intimidate us There is a simple-yet-powerful little NLP technique for dealing with an unwanted reaction to somebody – such as when The technique is deceptively simple
It’s not just what you eat…
The NLP TATE or TOTE model is a valuable method for recognising the steps which we go through in something as simple and automatic as eating. Recognising our personal ‘eating steps’ makes eating management and weight or size management more manageable.
How to eat an airplane!
Or how to not be intimidated by your own thoughts! NLP is well-known for its great range of techniques for changing you you think, feel and communicate. But, deep down, NLP
Try it – or do it
Using the word ‘try’ implies failure – either that we will fail or that we expect you to fail. Don’t try – either do it – or don’t do it.
Public speaking, talks, presentations… Why do it?
An NLP way to decide where you’re going One great thing about NLP is how it enables us to be surgically precise in analysing a situation in order to improve it. For
Using the NLP Eye Movements
The gifted few Reading time 3 mins It used to be that some people we regarded as gifted communicators and everyone else had to work hard at developing their skills.
Talk ‘em into submission!
“Everyone’s doin’ it” Sometimes it seems that everyone’s at it. Doing what…? They are trying to influence others by talking at them. In other words by relying on quantity rather
All your eggs in one basket
The lights went out Just as darkness was approaching yesterday afternoon the electricity supply in the house disappeared. Suddenly there was no power, no lighting and no heating. And it
Dreams into Reality – the 5 steps
Lots of people talk a good talk – they have great dreams but never make them come true. With NLP we can map out the 5 steps that need to be followed in turning a dream into reality.
Sneaky Judgements: that “Don’t Shoot the Messenger” ploy
“I’m not saying you’ve got poor taste in clothes…” “Of course, darling, you know I love your taste in clothes… I’m just saying that some of my colleagues have remarked
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“I know just how they feel” – NLP and fuzzy thinking
Different languages! Reading time 3 mins The rush-hour train from London was crowded but I got a seat at a table in the noisy, smoky buffet section. (This was just