The Self Consciousness ‘Habit’(*) Last week’s newsletter and blog article on Self Consciousness produced quite a few e-mails, including one from Bob (not his real name) who is in his mid-30’s, has had the self consciousness habit all of his life and finds that it’s getting in the way of his finding a life partner. […]
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Understanding self consciousness Self consciousness can also be labelled as shyness, introversion, OES (overwhelming embarrassment syndrome), or plain (very) old fashioned ‘inferiority complex’. Whatever the label it’s severely uncomfortable and can be very limiting: it can limit one’s career, social connections and even the ability to meet a life partner. Most of us go through
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The great offers that are snatched back We come across these truth-but-not-the-whole-truth sales and marketing tricks every day special offers that aren’t very special when you read the small print massive discounts that turn out to only apply to a few items wonderfully enticing radio adverts – followed by a long, very rushed, and garbled piece of
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Reading time – 5 mins Yesterday’s announcement that the News of the World was to close down got me thinking of branding – and how easily a brand can become damaged. Branding – just what is it? What actually is a ‘brand’? Well, there’s the literal and comprehensive version and the down-to-earth NLP version. The
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Open Loops Like many of the things he said back in the 80’s, Richard Bandler’s observation that people often use ‘just’ as a way of being unjust initially puzzled me. And, of course and as intended, it opened up a loop which my brain continued to puzzle at until I got my answer – weeks,
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NLP is great, wonderful, amazing etc etc It goes like this; you’ve been interested in and using NLP for a while and have found that it has made a difference in your life. You’ve used it to solve some problems and to make a few valuable breakthroughs in how you think, feel and communicate. And
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I should have remembered I was intently watching the car park meter slowly printing my ticket when a woman’s voice behind me said “Would you have a 5P piece?” I said “Yes, I think I have” and checked my change and, sure enough, there I had a 5P. As she counted out the penny coins
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NLP and the T.A.T.E Model The T.A.T.E. Model is great for identifying what accounts for success or failure in how we do things. We use it in our NLP Practitioner courses and it’s simply an adaptation of the famous T.O.T.E. model which was published over fifty years ago by Miller, Gallanter and Pribram. Simply put,
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I was asked for advice on what to do about anger – so I explained as simply as possible how we do the Anger Habit: (There is a series of articles dealing with anger in our Mind-Body Health website : http://www.pe2000.com/anger.html)
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Living vicariously – or living This month’s Pegasus NLP Newsletter is about the difference between living a fulfilling life and living your life second hand – i.e. really Living or living vicariously. Many of us don’t live very fulfilling lives. We get by from day to day in comfort but without a real sense of fulfilment
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NLP Hype The five of us were sitting in the sunshine outside a café in the lovely little Victorian town of Swanage this morning – Julie, Peter, their two boys, and myself. And despite our best intentions the conversation drifted back to NLP – a few times. We got to remarking on the NLP Hype
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What’s it like for would-be customers’? The car ahead of me had stickers advertising their service. I could tell that much because of the big lettering on the car boot (i.e. trunk in the US). They also had their mobile telephone number in big bright letters across the width of the boot, too, so would-be customers
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The Reviewing Model The Reviewing Model is one of those deceptively simple yet powerful methods for learning through doing and reviewing. That’s why we use in our Pegasus NLP courses. What is it? The model provides a quick-and-easy three-step structure for learning and benefiting from your experience – any experience: Step 1. What? What did
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NLP Tips – Week 2 The NLP Tips’ series on Twitter has now completed its second experimental week of daily tips. This Blog article enlarges on the Twitter tips since these are restricted to just 140 characters – and enables people who don’t use Twitter to have access to the tips. It also provides a
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Why do people sometimes seem to be their own worst enemies? They eat too much, drink too much, work too hard etc. despite advice and evidence that it is not good for them. Despite the trouble it causes. Despite the side effects. Despite, in some cases, even the threat of losing their liberty. This is
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Daily NLP Tips The new daily NLP Tips series on Twitter is for people who have had some experience of NLP. This is because anything other than a reminder of an NLP concept or process would be impossible to squeeze into 140 characters – it’s a tough enough challenge as it is 🙂 I’m planning
NLP, Bodywork and group hugs In the early 80’s as I was exploring NLP I also became interested in bodywork as another route to personal development. As the name suggests bodywork is about physical ways of enabling oneself and others to get to know ourselves better and to feel better. My experimenting took me into
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Self Talk has its uses … A lot of us who do our thinking primarily through self talk or, as we term it in NLP, through Auditory Digital thinking, try to keep track of everything going on in our lives “in our heads”. And if you have a very busy life and have lots of
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Driving your own bus? Or back-seat passenger? Bad times or learning opportunities? What’s your favourite screw-up, setback, mistake, weak spot, etc. What’s pretty well guaranteed to have you in an unpleasant mood? For example: What’s common to these? The common factor in all of these questions is the implication that unpleasant moods don’t happen to
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Rapport: the first essential in communicating One of the first “challenges” in becoming an effective communicator is knowing how to create the right atmosphere for effective communicating to occur. Take for example a simple “information gathering” exercise on one of our workshops in which the object is for, say, Jill to discover something about how
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How we programme our own moods How we interpret events and then have feelings as a result of our own interpretation is the main topic in today’s Pegasus NLP Newsletter. The article takes a look at how we attach meaning to what is happening around us and how the meaning which we attach then determines
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It’s bank holiday weekend! The Dorset Coast, when I live, is a popular visitor destination and I’ve long ago learned from the locals that it’s best to avoid travelling locally on bank holiday weekends. But yesterday I took a chance. And got caught in a traffic jam. It wasn’t a long one – just about
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Do you give yourself a hard time…? What you do when you slip up? When you make a mistake, forget something, screw up, open your mouth and (metaphorically) put your foot in it, do something embarrassing, etc. Well, if you’re like most of us you probably do give yourself a hard time about it. You
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For many people there is a certain satisfaction in giving others good advice on how to solve their problems or live their lives. And these people find it quite frustrating when, after carefully designing and delivering the advice, the recipient doesn’t follow it: they either ignore it completely or follow for a while and then
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NLP and traditional health enhancement Before I began to specialise in NLP training I ran stress management workshops for a number of years beginning back in 1983. Often I would be running two to five 2-hour workshops in any week in the Bournemouth-Poole area in Dorset (UK). And I also had a private psychotherapy and
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The Get it Right attitude (2) In Part 1 we looked at the way the Get it Right attitude works and I suggested having a think about how it works in your own life and what it’s cost you to date. If you’ve done this you’ll be aware of the lost opportunities resulting from it;
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The Get it Right Attitude You’ve probably encountered the ‘get it right attitude’. It’s the one that is backed up by clichés such as ‘if a job’s worth doing it’s worth doing properly’! It’s the attitude that prevents so many of us doing so many things. It goes along the lines: there’s no point in
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NLP techniques don’t work for me! Not long ago I got an email: ‘I have been reading … (naming a well-known NLP-based self improvement book) and listening to the accompanying CD which a friend of mine has used quite successfully and recommended to me. I am struggling with it because much of it seems to
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We’d like you to train our team The regional manager for the multinational had taken part, as a private individual, in our NLP Core Skills course a few months earlier and (of course 🙂 ) was very impressed with it. So much so that he was now approaching us to quote for a training programme.
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