Better than a ‘Cookie Jar’
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Plan to have a great time – alone!
Do you plan for good times – alone! It changed my life. The advice to plan for good times even when alone – in fact, especially when alone. This was some years ago. When it seemed to me that happy times were the prerogative of couples and families. That’s when it dawned on me, sometime
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When NLP is ‘not’ very smart
NLP… in Plain English? I began using NLP nearly 40 years ago. And in the early days much of the NLP jargon just about beat me – I really couldn’t make sense of it. Take, for instance, “The meaning of your communication is the response you get”. Now this one had me baffled for years!
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90% is good enough!
Perfectionism: a recipe for endless dissatisfaction The perfectionist wants everything they do to be perfect. Flawless. Beyond criticism… The perfectionist is never satisfied with their results. Whatever they achieve they quickly decide they could have done better – and should have done better, in fact. They do not have an ‘it’s good enough – let’s
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NLP and Mental Filters: Now you don’t see it – now you do!
The branch was in the way There’s a lot of rubble to get rid of so I ordered a skip from the local company. We’d used them a few times before but this time they said they wouldn’t be able to negotiate the narrow corner because their new lorry was higher and wider and a
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Petty People in the workplace
Petty People at work Reading time 3 mins Petty People like to divide and conquer – to play the ‘enemies and allies’ game. In their eyes, you’re either with them or against them. Side with them and life is fine. Disagree with them and they’ll aim to make life miserable for you. So, obviously they
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Which is your ‘favourite’ stress mode?
The ‘Satir Stress Modes’ Virginia Satir identified that we move into one or more of 4 modes of behaviour and reaction when under pressure – we blame others, or placate them, or distract their attention, or become cool/cold and super-reasonable. The Blamer: in Blamer mode we find fault with anyone and everyone – except
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Conversation Hijackers
Spot the conversation hijack! It’s become a morning sporting event; spot the hijack! One of our local radio stations has a presenter who is a master of the conversation hijack. He can turn any topic around to himself in seconds: conversation with the weather or traffic or business support team, interview with a guest, or
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6 ways to practice (or practise) your NLP skills
In developing your NLP skill the old saying ‘I hear and I forget. I see and I remember. I do and I understand’ applies. Actually, when it comes to skill, as opposed to mere knowledge about NLP, this piece of wisdom from Confucius is incomplete. We need to add “… I practice and I become skilled”. Because it’s not enough to just do it once and decide you understand – you have to keep doing it until it becomes an automatic (or unconscious) part of your behaviour.
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Worrying: Mental Rehearsal for Failure
Worry: Mental Rehearsal for failure Worrying is normal. We all to do it, at times. We worry about how we’ll handle an important event, such as a job interview, presentation or appraisal. Or exam. Sports or arts performance. And the more important this event, the more worried we become… We imagine we’ll forget things, or
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The Professional Guild of NLP (2004-2017)
Reading time 6 mins The Professional Guild of NLP was founded in 2004 by a number of NLP training organisations. It was an independent membership-owned body which supported professional standards of training in NLP. Member organisations agreed to a code of ethics, a core syllabus, and to a minimum length of training. The Professional Guild
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Give gifts to create feelings – or just create feelings?
Giving presents is a ‘funny’ process. And a slightly complicated one, too, if you think about it… if you delve a little deeper – under the bonnet – which is what we do in NLP… On the surface we give a present because… Underneath and beneath that surface we do it, hopefully, because we want
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The 10 Steps to Highly Effective Hating!
You have to be careful if you want to be good at hating people. For example, you must take care not to get to know them. This could spoil everything. If you get to know someone you could easily be side-tracked into seeing them as humans like yourself and even as likeable.
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Strong Leaders Create Weak Followers
The new team forms Reading time 6 mins On the Low Ropes course you are part of a small group of 5-8 people who have to resolve a number of non-strenuous team challenges and problem-solving activities and, ideally, become a team in the process. You don’t know one another – you’ve met for the first
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