Are you planning for healthy ageing… or decrepitude?
A challenging question? On some of our courses, we used to introduce our Design Your Future exercise. It was a way of creating a practical action plan to create your …
Simple advice for a healthy life…
A 600-yr old tip! Have you ever noticed the great resolutions that we make when we’re unwell… You know, the promises such as: Once I’m feeling better again I’ll exercise …
That ‘look at me when I’m speaking to you’ rule
They need to look away to think. In conversation, lots of people need to look away to think. On the other hand, lots of other people get upset if their …
Those NLP anchors did work – before NLP!
NLP Anchors worked – even before NLP! Back in the late 1700’s the Scottish novelist-to-be, Walter Scott, was a student at Edinburgh High School. And he was always runner-up to …
How long to develop a new habit?
“How long will it take me make this a habit?” Well, the usual answer is 21 days and this is one of those myths-which-became-truth because it is so widely and …
Walking for your health!
Walking – less fashionable than running, BUT… In recent years enlightened GPs around the UK have been setting up walking groups for patients in their practices – with good results …
The Nocebo – beliefs can harm our health
The amazing Nocebo Effect The Nocebo is what happens when we receive scary news which results in physical symptoms. The Nocebo is the opposite of the Placebo. With the Placebo, …
Time for a break from the News
Time for a break from The (Bad) News! Social-Distancing? Yep, got it! So, now how about ‘News-Distancing?” As I sat down to have my lunch one day last week, there …
“Stay safe!”
Wishing them well?? Shortly after the arrival of Covid-19 in the UK we began wishing each other well with “Stay Safe!” comments. It was a well-intended comment. Yet, in communication, and …
Aggressive agreement!
Conversational power tactic #2 The “aggressive agree-ers” seem to be on your side. After all, they agree with you! But they do it a bit too enthusiastically; so much so …
Using silence to control you
Conversational power tactic #1 People who use silence as a weapon in conversation want an audience. But they don’t like to be the audience. So, they’ll discourage you from making …
The news media – spreading Doom & Gloom?
Doom and Gloom Special (Part 1) Part 2 is here The end of the world is nigh (yet again) I was on my way back from London and was buying …
Plan to have a great time – alone!
Do you plan for good times – alone! It changed my life. The advice to plan for good times even when alone – in fact, especially when alone. This was …
When NLP is ‘not’ very smart
NLP… in Plain English? I began using NLP nearly 40 years ago. And in the early days much of the NLP jargon just about beat me – I really couldn’t …
90% is good enough!
Perfectionism: a recipe for endless dissatisfaction The perfectionist wants everything they do to be perfect. Flawless. Beyond criticism… The perfectionist is never satisfied with their results. Whatever they achieve they …
NLP and Mental Filters: Now you don’t see it – now you do!
The branch was in the way There’s a lot of rubble to get rid of so I ordered a skip from the local company. We’d used them a few times …
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Petty People in the workplace
Petty People at work Reading time 3 mins Petty People like to divide and conquer – to play the ‘enemies and allies’ game. In their eyes, you’re either with them …
Which is your ‘favourite’ stress mode?
The ‘Satir Stress Modes’ Virginia Satir identified that we move into one or more of 4 modes of behaviour and reaction when under pressure – we blame others, or …
