Use NLP to improve how you communicate

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Tips & techniques to improve how you communicate

This section contains practical ways to use NLP in your relationship with others, all of which are included in our NLP training courses and many of the articles were originally published in our newsletter.

How to have great relationships How to value your close relationships and keep them fresh and stimulating (1 February 2000 – the first issue of the Newsletter).
NLP Anchors in relationships – Negative Anchors and your close relationships Calibrated loops – a special form of un-useful anchor that can seriously damage close relationships.
Gimme Time to Think! On application of the NLP eye accessing cues in communication
Good intentions aren’t good enough – recognising and utilising non-verbal feedback
Body language – How NLP helps us recognise and respond to non-verbal communication – which is often more useful than what they say in understanding the real messages.
What we learn at school – nothing about how to have good relationships!
NLP in close relationships: “You’re not perfect anymore…”
What is ‘Good Eye Contact’? There are lots of differing messages and pieces of advice on what makes good eye contact – maybe they’re coming at it from the wrong angle!
Closeness and Carelessness: how the over-filled “to-do” list can have a negative effect on loving relationships.
NLP and the Incessant Talker: insights into what makes those non-stop talkers act like they do – along with tips on what to do about them
Talking at people – or influencing them: the difference between ‘old school’ influencing and effective influencing is… being prepared to listen to them first
NLP & Advice Giving “Why won’t they take my advice – and change their lives!”
Pity Petty People: instead of resenting them we could pity these unhappy people
Weasel or cop-out words indicate a lack of commitment
You can make others feel good – or not – by your own mood and behaviour: Spread the smile or the scowl
Soft eyes: Relax yourself and others with Soft Eyes
‘But’ – one of the words to use with caution . The tiny little word that can sabotage our good intentions when communicating.
Try’ – one of the words to use with caution. Try is a cop-out. Do it – or don’t do it.
Representational systems: In NLP we usually rely on two ways of identifying which thinking system or representational system or ‘rep system’ a person is using – how they move their eyes and the predicate words and phrases they use
NLP Eye Movements: These also called the Eye Accessing Cues. They providevaluable information about how a person is thinking from the directions in which their eyes most frequently move. See also Eye accessing clues and Learn to use the eye accessing signals
NLP Predicates: The Predicates or ‘give-away’ words and phrases provide a basic clue on how best to communicate with someone
Different Perspectives – the NLP technique for recognising the other person’s point of view. It is also known as Perceptual Positions
Models of the World: in NLP we recognise that each of us has their own view of the reality i.e. we have Different ‘Models of the World’
Modelling: the process which led to the development of NLP was Behavioural Modelling e. how to identify the key components in any skill
Meta Programmes –Options & Procedures. Some people like to do things in a systematic manner – others like to go with the flow
Rapport in NLP: How to create rapport and, importantly, how not to create rapport using NLP approaches
NLP and Rapport: The best rapport comes from being genuinely interested in the other person – rather than mechanical techniques!
Body language: the NLP approach to non-verbal communicating we are always communicating – even if it is sometimes only non-verbal only.

Our NLP articles are in 5 sections

Communicating with others

Tips and insights into how to improve how you communicate

Managing your moods and emotions (1)

A list of tips, information and techniques for managing your moods and emotional reactions. This is the first of two pages.

Managing your moods and emotion (2)

A second list of tips and techniques for feeling more in charge of your thourhgt and feelings

NLP in the workplace

How NLP can be applied at work – in managing, leading, team development, and in your career.

Goals, outcomes and motivation

There is a lot more to goals than SMART objectives. How to design your goals to so they lead to action and achieve what you really want.

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