How to find an NLP Coach or Therapist
How to find an NLP Coach or Therapist. 6 tips for selecting an NLP Coach or Therapist. Choosing a life coach or counsellor or therapist can be a little daunting. How do you choose? This page offers general advice and 6 tips for finding an NLP coach or therapist – one who who
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NLP Questions and Answers
NLP Questions and Answers NLP Eye Movements Q. I’m trying to find info on the direction the eyes go (up left) that would indicate if they are lying or are they checking their memory (truth) …etc A. The eye directions could, if used very carefully and as part of a lot of other checking, give a rough indication of
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NLP FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions about NLP Reading time 3 mins Define NLP succinctly! This is a commonly asked question. And it’s not an easy one to answer, because NLP covers such a wide field and has so many diverse applications. The following are a few ways of defining it: In a nutshell… NLP is a simple yet
NLP History
One version of the NLP story Reading time 5 mins …and, like most histories, the history of NLP is anecdotal, subjective, and based on a mixture of facts, rumour and personal memories! The ‘true’ history of NLP has yet to be written. What’s more it’s highly unlikely that a definitive version which all those involved will
How to learn NLP
What is the best way to learn NLP? Learning NLP is very different from school or academic learning. Why? Because NLP is about developing skill rather than merely acquiring information. It’s about what you can DO rather than what you know. For many of us, ‘school learning’ sets the standard by which we gauge future learning opportunities. Yet
Low Self-Confidence is an accident…
We don’t decide to have low self-confidence We develop the Low Self-Confidence habit when we’re very young, almost invariably. It usually begins as a result of how people treat us and communicate with us – plus how we make sense of things which happen to us. Once begun, the habit is maintained by how we think about
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The ‘Low Self-Confidence Habit’ (1)
Low Self Confidence is a habit – not a condition People often talk about having low self-esteem or low self-confidence as if these were ‘things’ or aberrant mental conditions that need expert help or treatment. They are not. And, though linked, the two are not exactly the same. What’s more, this way of thinking dis-empowers
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Forever “going-to” begin things?
“Beware of all enterprises that require new clothes”! With just 8 words Henry David Thoreau encapsulates a common and every effective self-deception tactic. Which is used by many of us – as a way of ‘not’ taking action on big projects. Instead of taking action we get involved in time-consuming and complex and sometimes expensive preparations as
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5 Tips for your New Year goals
New Year goals are great – as long as you follow a few practical tips.
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The 3 Things Game
Think of three moments which were This is a simple rapport-creating (and thought-provoking) – game or experiment which I came up with a few days ago. It’s good for getting interesting conversations and interesting trains of thought going. And you can play it with friends or family … or with yourself. Select a few 3’s
Pegasus NLP Training courses
Pegasus NLP training courses. NLP courses that are practical and very thorough. When you take part in one of our courses you are learning NLP Our NLP Practitioner Certification Programme is the original full-length, full-syllabus version of 120 hours. And to make it easy to fit it into your diary we run this in two parts: Note: all
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The 10% New approach in action
Staying in the ‘stretch’ – just! by Matt Swain Pegasus NLP has a model called ‘10% New’; it has a nice ring to it and means constantly stretching ourselves. The more we stay in stretch the more our unconscious recognises this and re-normalises our comfort zone. When I began with Pegasus many years ago, middle
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Use your body to change your mind
Physical ways to feel good Sometimes positive thinking just doesn’t shift a negative mood. It’s as if the negative mood has such a grip that stronger stuff is needed. And that’s exactly what’s happening. Mind and body are feeding one another in a negative cycle and you need to break this cycle physically. And if you’ve been
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The Christmas card thing
Be careful what you ask for… One of the things I’ve always associated with Christmas was lines of Christmas cards on the mantelpiece and just about any flat surface in the living room. This association goes right back to when I was a child. Then about 10-12 years ago I totted up the cost of
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Driving: you can spread the smile – or the scowl
NLP and driving: you can drive courteously because it helps keep the traffic flowing smoothly – or because it makes you feel good. And because it causes ripples of goodwill.
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Let them offload first
Conversations with some people are a bit like this. They have to ‘get it off their chest’ before they are able to listen. They are not selfish. They are not disinterested in what you have to say. They simply need a few moments while they think aloud. Yes, okay, sometimes they do need quite a few moments especially if it is something they are worked up about – like ‘the situation at work’. When they are excited, or angry, or confused, or worried they’ve got all this stuff going on inside – images and feelings and words. Their thoughts and emotions are in a whirl.
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Keep your options open? Or make an action plan and do it?
“Procedures” specialists get things done, according to a plan – and efficiently. “Options” specialists like to go with the flow – as the mood takes them – and do it their way…
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What can NLP do for me?
The short answer to the question ‘how can I use NLP?’ is that often there isn’t a short answer. And what’s the slightly less-short answer? It’s usually better to first use NLP ‘map out’ the problem to identify how it works. Just doing this can have a huge impact.
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Teamwork, moving a tent, and an NLP group in the New Forest
When team members are not required or encouraged to compete with one another this ‘pulling together’ usually happens spontaneously. And this is an opportunity missed by so many organisations: the ones which talk a good talk about how ‘we’re all part of a team’ – and then go on to kill this ideal by requiring people to compete with one another for career advancement!
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How to turn your workable plan into… action
The NLP Disney Strategy for turning wishes and dreams into workable plans gets things ready to get the ball rolling. Once you’ve got your Plan it’s time to get it actually rolling – and keep it rolling.
For this you need (1) Milestones + Action Steps and (2) Motivation to stick at it. This article explains how..
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Use NLP to turn wishes into workable plans
The NLP Disney Strategy (1) ‘Well, I had this great idea once…but…’ How many great ideas have you come up with… and never followed through on them? Going for that new job or promotion? Or the exercise and weight management programme that would make all the difference? Or the new business venture you were thinking
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What makes a 'good' handshake?
A handshake only lasts two or three seconds yet it can influence how the other person feels about you for a long time. This article contains a few tips on making a good physical impression.
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Internet security & that eBay Password fiasco
eBay took over 3 months to tell people their passwords had been hacked. Using a Password Manager would not have protected you – but the complex passwords such programmes can generate would have deterred all but the most determined and resourceful hackers
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NLP & Negative Anchors or 'Hot Buttons'
Negative hot buttons It happens to everyone from time to time. One minute you’re in a great mood, thinking clearly, looking on the bright side of life. Then something happens and your mood changes and you feel down or irritable. Each of these is an example of an automatic neuro-chemical programmes that in NLP is
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‘Live in Day-Tight Compartments’
It’s a common and quite uncomfortable experience: life suddenly seems too complex, there’s too much to deal with, too many insurmountable problems – and you just want to hide away from it all. Everything has bunched up to create an emotional log-jam! Deal with this in three stages…
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'Tough times never last – but tough people do'
I love this story. Bullied at school for, believe it or not, having red hair Louis Evans has gone on to become one of Europe’s top fashion models.
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